What to do when you and your SO get into a huge fight right before his birthday tomorrow?

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Give him the gift of forgiveness

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Kiss and makeup

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Depends what the fight was about

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OP, yeah that’s rude of him and he sounds immature (like 12 year olds say stuff like that). Like D1 mentioned, I think if this is a recurring problem and not a one time thing, this might have to be handled differently. You could bring this up again after his birthday and see what he says - his reaction will hopefully help you figure out the path forward. I wouldn’t continually tolerate someone that’s dismissive of your needs or is disrespectful

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Move on. The fight isn’t worth ruining a special day for him. He sent you something you thought was in bad taste and got defensive - this isn’t something most people would find to be a relationship ender. Unless you do think it’s worth ending the relationship, I’d wake up with a present and a smile, ready to celebrate the man you love.

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I'm sorry, OP, this situation sucks. I generally agree with the advice to put this aside for his birthday, but that's not to say you have to issue blanket forgiveness on this issue.

1. If he continues to act like a jerk on his bday you are not required to just tolerate that
2. If he's similarly dismissive of your feelings at another point in time, you can re-engage the conversation then with more data. If he shapes up and doesn't do it again, all the better and the message got through the first time!

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Does not sound breakup-worthy to me so I’d let it go and enjoy the birthday.

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Ugh I’m sorry that sucks - try to sleep it off tonight, and readdress it after his birthday depending on the context/severity

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Take care of yourself. He clearly isn’t.

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