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What to do when you leave the small pond?

I've spent the last decade getting really good at whatever job I've had at the time. Doing what people told me to do, filling in gaps, being the cheerleader that everyone got along with.

Problem now is that I'm finally in a place where I can set my own path and I feel totally lost and unprepared. I've even looked for advice on SMART goals at my level but the shame/inadequacy/imposter syndrome is so strong.

Anyone else felt this way? What helped?

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know that everyone has fears and the fact that you are open and honest to admit it sets you above so many others.

stay open.
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cultivate support from those who have paved paths before you and those who will follow in yours and support them and others around you.

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