What's gaslighting? Any experiences ?

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Gaslighting is where someone distorts the truth to make you question reality and your own recollection/perception of things. I’ve had this personally and observed it professionally. It’s extremely damaging and can make people perceived to be extremely mentally unwell and as if experiencing psychosis…. When in fact they are being abused

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I mean I gaslight every time my girlfriend hears me fart.

"I didn't fart, it was probably x machine..."

Gaslighting is just a thing that immature people talk about. It’s not even real. You sound crazy.

That’s gaslighting.

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Highly recommend you watch the movie Gaslight (1944), the behavior is named after the movie. The movie is a great example of the practice.

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