What's one really positive things that's come from your sobriety journey? Healed relationships? Steps forward?

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I’ve stopped “faking” so many aspects of life. Faking I’m not hung over. Faking I don’t drink more than others or am not as drunk as I actually was. Faking I cared about or felt nothing. Faking that everything I did wasn’t about drinking. I just live so much more honestly - and these feelings, that I feel and acknowledge now are such a gift. Also as a side note - so many people in my life have told me they don’t endlessly worry about me anymore - I think that’s a gift too.

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Living with peacefulness that I’m not always hiding or ashamed of something (amount of drinking, things i did when drinking, the damage I was doing to my body). The passive suicide comment above definitely resonates.

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Positive thinking and a healthier outlook on life. Also felt better physically, mentally and emotionally.

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I got about 2.5 years sober under my belt. When I was in the depths of my addiction, I was convinced that at the age of 32, I had experienced all that I cared to experience in life. In other words, I was a passively suicidal, a shell of a person who didn’t care about what the future had to offer. I was content with trotting along the path to alcoholic oblivion and my untimely death.

The greatest gift that sobriety has given me is hope. The hope that things will get better, that I will be able to make it through those moments when life gets “lifey,” and that “this too shall pass.”

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Freedom to think freely. I noticed that when I drunk, I was always in my head, and always on the lookout that someone maybe watching what I did, how I talked. Pretending to be someone else. But now I feel so confident with my new identity, and if someone offers me a drink, I just tell them that I don’t drink, instead of saying I am trying to stop. I am more comfortably social, and I trust my mind more than when I drunk. Btw, I make one year of sobriety on November 14th and I love the feeling.

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No more monthly trips to the emergency room.

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The only thing is everything!

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I repaired my relationship with my mom.

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I’m a morning person again. Most days I wake up now feeling how I did when I was a kid on vacation. The above comment about thinking I’ve experienced everything and being passively suicidal really resonated with me. I’d just lay in bed, a little hungover, but mainly disinterested and I excited about life. I wake up now and feel excited about what unknown things will happen each day. Even if I’m just going to work. It’s not always great. Mental health issues and all that. But I feel way more stable and equip to handle the hard times

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I was able to see the bad things in my life for what they were and eventually change them. I’m out of a toxic marriage. I have my own awesome house. I have a job I like now. I work a lot less. I create more. I’m healthier. I have a great group of sober friends.

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Finances. Dear lord how much money I spent was ridiculous… now I can actually enjoy my hard earned money ..

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