What’s the appropriate time to introduce the L word. Esp in the age group 30+. And is it something you wait for the other person to say?

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Appropriate time is when you feel it.

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I don’t understand why it would be something you wait for the other person to say. What if they also think this way? Then no one ever says it?

The appropriate time is when you feel it. It’s ok to be vulnerable. It’s ok to be rejected.

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When you feel it in your heart. Don’t force it from your head or put a time on it.
Thinking you are asking about the romantic kind with a special someone, it would be spontaneous and you feel it in your gut that somebody was genuine and so sweet! That’s when you say it out loud to maybe yourself first before saying to anyone else.

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I spent 1-2 months catching myself thinking it and saying it to myself (eventually saying it out loud when by myself - “I love xx”), before I said it to him. Take your time!

What’s the l word?

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Ha I thought for a sec she meant lesbian 🤪

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I always wait for the guy to say it first with something as big as that. My current guy said it 4 months in. We’re both mid-thirties

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I wait for the guy because honestly, the type of men I tend to date like to be the pursuers. They don’t want it to be too easy, they want to work. I know it sounds old school, but after dating for a long time, I’ve figured this out about the types of men I date. Again, that’s just me!

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Dumped a guy once because it was coming up on a year and he hadn’t said it. Got back together 7 years later and said it that day. He reciprocated. I was “the one that got away”.

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It’s different for everyone OP. I’ve said it after a month, currently been dating a guy for four months and haven’t said it

If you feel it, then go for it. Own it. That makes you exciting and interesting rather than being passive. It gets boring after some time if you keep waiting for the other person to make moves.

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