What’s the most equitable way to split rent and finances (e.g., living expenses, going out together) when considering moving in with an SO who is in graduate school and has no real source of income?

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Tricky! I’d say depends on a few factors:
- The gap in your spending/standard of living trade offs (can you actually match each other spending equally? Does your SO have savings? Are you willing to live more simply to match them?)
- The mentality about money between you both (do you care about things being equal or fine paying more than your share? Are they ok paying less or want to pay their way?)

If you can match spending on the main things (equal shares of rent, bills etc.) I think it helps with both feeling like you are contributing equally. Then you can always take all the smaller but frequent extras (Netflix, meals out, Uber rides etc etc). If you can’t match rent, I’d say you pay what you’d pay if you were living alone and they top up the difference.

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