What’s the number 1 reason why you haven’t (or didn’t in the past) sought out support for your mental well being?

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Not understanding that I actually needed support and thought I was just being over dramatic due to my upbringing. I didn’t understand how mental illnesses appear because it was never talked about at home.

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I was very young when I noticed a lot of anxiety, stress, and depression. I denied though thought that there was anything wrong with me. I attributed it to a rough upbringing (which in itself is a long story of abuse) however after I met my husband (boyfriend back then) things escalated rather quickly. I was spiraling quickly and the depression got the best of me and i became suicidal but I woke up and put myself into a hospital and got the help I needed (or so I thought). My boyfriend back then still didn't think i needed to be in there and i was so young and naive that i signed myself out against medical will. I attempted to go for help but was off and on taking my meds and seeing the drs. It wasn't till i was in my 20s and had my first child that i sought help saying that i need help. I saw a therapist and psychiatrist for probably 3-4 years and eventually came off my meds and I am still doing ok to this day. I know that my problems have not gone away but i have learned techniques on how to deal with them and as well i know how to and when to get the help if i need to. Don't wait, go get the support now.

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I'm learning to be ore vulnerable. Always had a habit of wanting to handle things on my own because I didn't think others would understand or would judge me for how I felt.

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I was in denial at first. I didn't realize that what I was going through was something serious. I am so glad I asked for for professional help.

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I was too scared to admit that I was unwell because out of all my friends, I was the one who advocated for mental health the most. I felt like I was failing myself. Going to a psychiatrist would make it feel more real and it made my anxiety worse. It wasn't until I had a full-on breakdown in front of my mother that I agreed for her to take me to one. And I'm thankful that she did.

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