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2 years minimum before getting engaged. Takes about that long before people start being unable to hide who they really are lol
I also think it’s just simpler than that too. We all put on a little show for the world and act differently when we like someone. After about 2 years you just start acting more like yourself. Sometimes that’s good and sometimes you realize you’re with someone you actually can’t stand.
My husband “knew” after a month, proposed in 6.
I “knew” at around 5-6 months. It helps that i dated around a LOT and knew my compatibilities and incompatibilities. When I met him, everything clicked just like a puzzle piece (cheesy but true).
Me 26 and him 28. I had dated upwards of 100 guys by then ...
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Tbh I used to says years but now I think 6 months. I’ve dated enough to know what I’m really looking for and what my dealbreakers are.
This^
I'm 36 and I only needed 9 mo to know she was the one.
When I was in my 20s, 2 years.
Before 23 yo don't get married yet.
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I feel like when you're older and mature you won't need as much time to figure out what you are looking for in a partner and if that person meets it.
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Some of my friends proposed after 3 months and got married a year later 🤷. For me I would say a year max.
Would gain comfort after two years of living together (24M)
I audited for 2 months haha ! Didn’t realize it was an associated term, though
I figure out if I can picture a future with someone pretty quickly but also think it’s important to stress test a relationship by way of experiences. Nothing devious in nature, but traveling with someone, sharing expenses with someone, and seeing how a person reacts to tough situations is important.
So, assuming that this person is a personality fit, we have similar life goals, the person is self-sufficient and financially responsible I would want to have some shared experiences before committing. When I didn’t do that I ended up divorced. engaged after 4 years. Our first big trip was our honeymoon where he legitimately abandoned me in many stressful and dangerous situations. When I did do that, I found my perfect match - engaged in two years. Traveled to multiple countries together, moved halfway across the country together all before the official engagement.
However, with my current husband, we discussed getting married about 8-12m in but decided to move in together/share expenses first to make sure we stayed aligned.
See... the whole thing of sharing expenses is literally what destroyed my 2 year relationship. You guys seem to have done it right
I used to think it would take a while but I knew my husband was the one after our first date. We decided we wanted to marry each other after 6 months and went ring shopping at 9 months but he waited to proposed on a trip we scheduled for our 1 year anniversary
Dated 2 months engaged 2.5 months, going on 3 years married.
1 year. I need to see how you act in all seasons and holidays.
I had an arranged marriage. We were engaged for a year before we got married. Hope that helps
That’s quite interesting. During this 1 year engagement, were you getting to know each other & would there have been a realistic way out in case one of you hadn’t liked the other?
Less than a year with my SO.
One of my friends dated this girl (from another country) for a couple of weeks and proposed the second time (after about 6 months and they chatted online) he visited her.
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My parents only dated 3 months before getting engaged, but they knew each other for maybe a year before and were in their 30s. They are happily married 37 years later.
2 years. Absolutely no less
Yeah but better to waste 2 years and ultimately realize that this person isn’t a good fit rather than go through a painful divorce 5-10 years down the road, especially if kids are involved. @A1
At a year I knew. I waited till 5/6 years because of where I was in life I was still in college then law school. Wanted that to be over before I got married. We both were open and had the understanding that we wanted to wait.
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On average a year. My husband and I dated for 2 years and then 1 year of being engaged and living together
Somewhere between 1-2 years
My SO and I are on the two year plan. We never moved crazy fast in any aspect of our relationship, so two years feels just right for us.