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What’s your experience dating white people? I’ve got the feeling the white guys I’ve dated viewed me as the one before THE ONE despite me being a (humbly) strong 7. Feel like race may play into it?😪

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I’ve always had a hit or miss with dating white men. Some were horrible but some felt strongly about me but I couldn’t commit given that I am serial dater. My family don’t care about what race I bring home and although I want to date a black man and have been actively changing my circles so I can find more young professional black men, it seems like even in those circles, I get courted more by white men.

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F🐠 here: On a separate yet related note, do WE have a thread or bowl for those of US who are in fact single and interested in dating other professional black men (or women)? If not, let’s start one! @C1, do what works best for you!

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Was fine, she genuinely loved me but I eventually ended it, great girl overall but was a bit immature, (would guess due to age) and was a bit too relaxed for me (not ambitious/not a go getter). This group has really opened my eyes to how it’s perceived being black with a white girl though

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Because I don’t want the ancestors to crack my Black before my time (and I like seasoning on my food and partners), imma bow out of this one respectfully.

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Men can be trash. Date accordingly.

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@M2 you’re very welcome.

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My ex boyfriend was white. We dated for 3 years. While it didn't work out in the end, I don't think it would have lasted anywhere near that long if I was just a steeping stone because of race.

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I've definitely been fetishized 🤦🏽‍♀️

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@P1, their personhood was devalued and they were pursued only to satisfy someone's sexual desire to be with someone Black and the stereotypes associated with being Black (e.g., Black women are good in bed or Black men have large penises).

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sitting next to my SO who is translucent. We’ve been together 15 together. He loves me for me and and vice versa. I was never “exotic”

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Never dated a quite woman I often wonder what that would be like, especially in culture specific situation for example...bringing her to an HBCU homecoming, black church, or family gatherings..

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Recently been promoted to a consultant in tech (mainly FT) - has anyone transitioned from this position into a non-consulting / industry role? Just curious as to what that transition tends to look like with only ~2 years of experience.

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I started this week at a legal solutions company and the firm that I was in final rounds of interviewing with pre-pandemic (and had to freeze hiring) got back to me and are interested in hiring me. I am really interested in joining the firm but afraid of burning bridges. Has anyone been in a simile boat and can speak about your experiences? More in comments.

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Anyone here interested in specific, advertised open roles at Google? DM me to chat about it and if it’s a strong match, I can provide a referral :)

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LA freelancers, do you like your health insurance plan? Can I get some recommendations pls?

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How important is it to get your CPA in the long run/ outside of big 4? Would CFE be beneficial? I’m a forensics staff.

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Worked on this huge project day and night for more than one year and only got $50 awards. Is there something wrong with me or this is common?

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Is the Career Outlook discussion the appropriate time to ask your RP to up your compensation or you are out (assuming you have a higher offer in hand)?

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Was on track interviewing with an awesome shop, then absolute crickets. It’s been a month since they said they wanted me to interview with the rest of the team. I’ve followed up several times....

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Why does EY pull metrics 3/31???? That means anything you do in April, May, and June goes unrecognized at year end. A full quarter of work and utilization for nothing, this doesn't seem right.

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What are your plans for summer for the kids?since we can't travel and no summer camp, how are you going to entertain throughout the day while working and when you are not working?

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Just came back to Advisory TC from Tour of Duty in IFS. Concerned my SA2 salary is below that of Advisory, since CRT took place during tour. How should I approach with HR?

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Thoughts on Glassdoor as an exit? Is comp similar to LinkedIn?

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What % of MARRIED people in our industry stay faithful would you say?

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I have an interview coming up where I will most likely need two days off of work for. How do I go about doing this since I can not take pto this last minute. Sick day ? Say I have a funeral ?

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Analyst on the project described a guy as 5'10" white male. Partner replies - you just described how 50 million American men look like !

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Does EY's fitness program includes reimbursement for family members? I'm going to get a new gym membership and there's a deal to add a family member.

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Being sick wasn't in the schedule 😞😟😶 feel shitty but still working #fml

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How much should an entry level consultant, making 70K a year, be putting towards their 401k?

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Anyone know that salary for a sales manager at google?

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