Black People In Consulting

What’s your experience dating white people? I’ve got the feeling the white guys I’ve dated viewed me as the one before THE ONE despite me being a (humbly) strong 7. Feel like race may play into it?😪

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I’ve always had a hit or miss with dating white men. Some were horrible but some felt strongly about me but I couldn’t commit given that I am serial dater. My family don’t care about what race I bring home and although I want to date a black man and have been actively changing my circles so I can find more young professional black men, it seems like even in those circles, I get courted more by white men.

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F🐠 here: On a separate yet related note, do WE have a thread or bowl for those of US who are in fact single and interested in dating other professional black men (or women)? If not, let’s start one! @C1, do what works best for you!

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Because I don’t want the ancestors to crack my Black before my time (and I like seasoning on my food and partners), imma bow out of this one respectfully.

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Men can be trash. Date accordingly.

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@M2 you’re very welcome.

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My ex boyfriend was white. We dated for 3 years. While it didn't work out in the end, I don't think it would have lasted anywhere near that long if I was just a steeping stone because of race.

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I've definitely been fetishized 🤦🏽‍♀️

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@P1, their personhood was devalued and they were pursued only to satisfy someone's sexual desire to be with someone Black and the stereotypes associated with being Black (e.g., Black women are good in bed or Black men have large penises).

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Was fine, she genuinely loved me but I eventually ended it, great girl overall but was a bit immature, (would guess due to age) and was a bit too relaxed for me (not ambitious/not a go getter). This group has really opened my eyes to how it’s perceived being black with a white girl though

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sitting next to my SO who is translucent. We’ve been together 15 together. He loves me for me and and vice versa. I was never “exotic”

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Never dated a quite woman I often wonder what that would be like, especially in culture specific situation for example...bringing her to an HBCU homecoming, black church, or family gatherings..

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