What’s your opinion here ladies, I have been dating a guy (LDR) for about 4 months. In the first two months I had a work trip in his country which I got to see him. (Contd)

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Why not wait until he does have the funds? Personal opinion but 4months of LDR does not warrant a paid visit imo.

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I think this is very reasonable, either he can shift money from a planned trip to this or wait a few months

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People prioritize the things they want to do. If I were you, I’d say “ok, totally understand you pre-planned these trip; then let’s just wait until you have the funds to come over; that’s fine”

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Yeah agreed with most people here! My BF and I are long distance as well and he's unfairly had to pay for more tickets (because my job and alt travel covered 90% of my tickets) and he's never even taken me up on my offers to split his tickets.

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That’s a tough one, only you know your relationship, your level of comfort with sharing finances at any level at this point, and how you feel about this. I’m also not sure what the scale is here - is he asking to borrow $100? $1000? Are you concerned about how little money he has if he’s asking to borrow or just worried he’s going to take the money and run?

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Honestly sounds like you aren’t comfortable with it so you shouldn’t do it. No reason to give a gift that makes you feel resentment, especially with someone you don’t have a commitment to share finances with

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Fast forward we are planning our next meet that he’s supposed to come here. He says he had a number of trips pre planned before we started dating and didn’t plan for this specific trip so his funds are kinda limited.. he then proceeds to ask if I could help him with the ticket. What are your thoughts? Red flag?

RED FLAG !!!! PLEASE DO NOT DO THAT.

this happened to my friend. she funded his 2K RT to EU. they obviously didn’t last bc he’s absolute scum.

sounds like a broke BOY. no MAN would ask their gf, esp if it’s only been 4 months, to sponsor their ticket. can’t believe he even has the audacity to ask. save yourself. you deserve better.

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