What's your opinion on making friends with non-HR coworkers? I don't like the thought that someday I might have to write up a friend for disciplinary action or tell them they're fired.

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I have many friends at my company both in HR and not. Life is too short to be that limiting. Now, you do have to be smart enough to know if a friend doesn’t understand the line between friendship and business and what’s appropriate where. That is not a true friend.

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Same. HR is about building relationships. You may have to draw boundaries, but you’ll go far by establishing trust with your coworkers.

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One of the best pieces of advice I received at my first HR position was that ‘HR doesn’t and can’t have friends. So before you embark on this career, make sure you’re ok with being alone at work.’ Bottom line, you can be friendly but not friends with anyone else outside HR. That’s just asking for trouble and heartbreak.

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Usually the hiring manager is the one who makes the decision to fire the employee not our team. We just have to process it

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It’s called boundaries. Laying a firm foundation of this is me as HR and this is me as a friend is important. I’m friends with everyone. That’s who I am and part of the reason I wanted to be in HR but company culture also plays a role and what relationships you can have. Mine is open so I’m good!

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It’s a part of the role. You have to have tough skin in HR. You may have a natural friend get hired at your company and still have the same scenario.

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Some of my closest friends are people I've met at work but you have to recognize your job comes before those friendships and how to separate personal from business. Luckily, I haven't had to fire anyone I was close to but I wouldn't hesitate to do so if I had to.

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I struggled with this early on in my career and was told to have no friends. But honestly you have to use your discernment. Know boundaries and evaluate if it’s a friendship or just being friendly. You don’t have to be friends with people at work. I built friendships naturally with people I’ve worked with and none of my non hr friends crossed my professional boundaries.

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Former HR here, I made friends with some of the managers at my office and then eventually ended up having to having Talks with them or coaching or what have you and it made the friendship very awkward and strained and I'll say a LOT of non-HRs don't understand that we do that as part of our job to ANYONE. You can be friendly with people outside HR, but I'd stick to friends within HR at the company and within non-HR outside the company only. Especially since we get exposed to a LOT of information and things can slip out sometimes that then you'd have to worry about a non-HR sharing 😅

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I have many friends in the business and outside of my first 10 years in HR, I always have. We are no longer old school Personnel, the guarder of all the rules and policies. We are the talent ambassadors, engagement champions, culture enablers and leadership role models. None of those things come with an air of exclusivity. The important thing is creating healthy boundaries where your friends know you aren’t always going to be transparent with them and won’t be the person who fuels the gossip mill. Also, chose your friends wisely.

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You can friends outside the HR department. However, I'd say that you should also keep the relationship in a professional manner. At the end of the day, you're still an HR and you have to fill up this duty.

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