When did you know that the person you were with was The One?

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It feels like ‘home’

It’s a feeling hard to describe

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Familiar
Safe space
Excited to see them
Both partners try to make up (irrespective of whose fault)
Unbelievable chemistry
You knew it in the instant you would be together (once you start dating)
There for you always: both good and bad times
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When they've done things differently than the majority of the people I dated. When they demonstrated, through their actions, that they met my "must haves" and realized that I could compromise on the "nice to haves"...because in reality, there's no such thing as an "ideal match". Haven't moved in with him during that time because I wasn't willing to give "spouse privileges" to someone who wasn't willing to make a commitment in return. To me it's either win-win or win-lose. Took us 2 years of dating, 3 breakups and going through relationship counseling to realize that we're meant for each other. But it was all worth it, as we've been engaged for 2 months now.

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This was so beautiful

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The one is a fantasy. Please wake up. There are many people who can be wonderful partners for us. Sometimes those last forever and at other times they don't and it's all good. Let's not put a single person on a pedestal.

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The One who had that potential

Don’t think there’s such thing as “the one.” I think you find someone who you’re compatible with and who shares your values, and you commit to choosing them. You commit to putting in effort, you commit to working through the hard times, and you keep choosing them.

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Everyone’s threshold is different but mine was when they chose to stay with me despite some huge mistakes I made.

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There is nobody as “the one”

Still trying to figure that out myself!

My bf and I have been dating for close to a decade. I know he's the one because he makes me happy. We don't fight and when we do disagree, we can talk about it like adults. He makes efforts for me and I do the same. You don't need to change yourself for the person but sometimes they help bring the best version of yourself. The one makes you feel at ease and comfortable.

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