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This is pretty normal. At the end of the day we’re all just people that have lives outside of work. It’s more fun to work with people you know. It’s kind of a way to build culture. Plus, you choose what you share. I keep it light and pretty high level when sharing, but some people definitely over share lol.
Overall, I don’t think it’s creepy, but if you’re uncomfortable, just say you’re not really comfortable talking about your personal life and prefer to set boundaries.
In the nicest way, his responses seem like a normal conversation? He seems like a coworker trying to get to know you. I find it interesting to know a bit about peoples personal lives. We spend so much time together with consulting, it’s nice to know what else you can talk about. Also, it lets you make easy conversation with him because you know about his life.
Lol that dude is trying to be your friend and make working together easier.
In what context did he say he’d like to get to know you more? Is he your manager or a team member that you will be working with for a long time? Does he act similarly to others?
I want to lean on the side of saying this is common - I’ve totally had managers want to get to know me more, ask these types of questions in 1:1s and team dinners, etc. Some of my closest friends are people at my company and in general our company culture is more of the “lets get drinks after work and all get to know each other” kind of vibe. With that said, if you feel uncomfortable then that’s what matters and you should maybe talk to others on your team or a staffer or adviser if you feel any line being crossed!
I am also going to be on the side of commenters agreeing that nothing about this situation seems untoward. I am married (cisgender she/her), and like to get to know the people I work with, both professionally and personally. The latter often gives me context for interpreting reactions to stress or other behaviors (and I am sure the same applies to colleagues I work with now and those with whom I have for years in many different professional incarnations).
A little intimacy is critical to empathy. Empathy is the magic that enables us to build trust-driven relationships that persist beyond what we might be working on in the present moment.
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All these people gaslighting you that nothing is untoward. Trust your gut. Always. Stay away from him
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No - If one’s gut instinct is firing (which OP says is the case) then they should always trust that.