When I share with my parents that I am getting a raise their first reaction is always what are you getting us. Though they say it jokingly it’s gotten to a point I don’t want to share details with them anymore. Anyone else experiences this

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Pls take a joke as a joke

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Ask them what they want. Most probably they will just want you around … with them. Listening and talking to them.

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Nope it wasn’t that

OP & EY1 - I only have sympathy for you .. it’s not about being Desi parents or not.. it seems like you are seeking validation from your parents that you are doing well.. if your enlightenment comes from annual raise, promotion or any materialistic achievement you better learn to find happiness in people around you, being blessed with parents around to listen to your achievements.. sharing times with people.. they not going to be there forever so stop complaining about petty things

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LOL, I was being sarcastic. My parents are from a different culture, and I get that. I don’t get upset when they behave as per the culture they came from. That is pretty basic. I get where they are coming from and appreciate that.

OP I feel you. I’m kind of in a similar situation and it feels draining.

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@PM1 for me it was more about them not telling me to celebrate and take some time out for myself and straight up thinking what’s in it for them

I’m sure they’re joking. You can joke too - just say “nothing” lol

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Why do you have to tell them ?!?

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lol .. they hurt your feelings?

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OP, you owe your life to them. Giving them material possession is the least you can do. Unless your parents didn't fulfill their parental role

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@Deloitte2, You sound like you were raised in a cult. You do not owe any thing to anybody. The least you can give to someone is Love and Respect.

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That is typical of desi parents and it is cultural . They are not as enlightened as us in the west

Was being sarcastic… most people think they have achieved nirvana as soon as they land in the US 😀

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