When (if ever) would you say something to a rude partner? There’s on I actually like in personal settings and he was great at work at first, but he’s a complete prick now. He doesn’t yell, but everything he says is dripping with contempt lately. Others have the same experience. I haven’t made any major mistakes, but he acts like whatever I say is the dumbest thing he’s ever heard. I also can’t finish a thought since he’s constantly interrupting. I feel like asking if he needs a hug.

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I would say something along the lines of “I’ve noticed our working relationship seems to have changed lately - could you enlighten me as to why? I want to clear the air so we can keep working well together.” Or something.

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Yeah… I’ve done it before. Haha. I would rather deal with short term awkwardness than long term. Usually when you call people out they knock it off. But if you don’t, it continues indefinitely.

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Not sure there's a benefit to commenting on your boss' tone. If you think there's value, I would do it very, very carefully. Or make a very, very careful comment to someone you think may pass along the message (discreetly) to them.

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I wouldn’t say anything directly but if that partner said something to me I would respond along the lines of, “excuse me, can you clarify, I want to ensure I am getting all the correct information..” but I would do it very politely with a smile. A trick a former prick of a partner taught me

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Im sorry thats uncalled for. You dont need to put up with toxicity like that. I would look to working with a new partner or leaving.

I wouldn’t say anything. Just work for other partners.

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Yeah that’s where I come out on this too. I was just curious if others felt differently since my non-law friends don’t seem to understand that dickheads are an occupational hazard of big law, even when you’re on the same side of a matter.

Out of curiosity, how did you end up handling? And has anything gotten better?

I think he needed a hug and must have gotten one. He’s a cool guy again.

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