When should Dads-to-be tell their employers their wife is expecting? This is going to be my 2nd child but unfortunately I’m new to my job (currently 6 weeks in) and we’ve been totally remote so far. Coincidentally sounds like we’ll be going back to the office around the time my wife is due.

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Are you showing? I would wait until you start gaining weight to tell them. 6 weeks is really early to tell anyone.

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Our firm it’s only 60 (or 90?) days to eligibility. 🥰

Are you planning to take extended leave? My male coworkers usually request about 2 -3 months in advance

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I’d say now or in another month.

I would tell earlier to the extent you want to be able to go to all of the appointments.

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If you’re planning to take parental leave (which, IMHO you should!), I’d tell them within the next month.

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I would say just tell them 2 or 3 months in advance. People will have to readjust their forecast depending on your availability. They can't stop you from going paternity leave if they provide that benefit. Congrats on your new junior! 😀

I did after week 20. My wife is due at the end of august so I gave them enough time to move my schedule

Firstly - congratulations. Secondly - after the first trimester has passed. Telling before this can be a bad idea if the worst should happen. If it was only 2 weeks you were planning (which is all a “secondary parent” would get at BDO) I’d wait until roughly 20 weeks but 8 weeks I’d say around 13 weeks. That’s plenty of time for the team to have a plan, especially if early labor happens.

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