When someone of equal role says something like “I don’t expect you to X,y,z (e.g. own something highly technical as an example) - that comes across as them speaking down to me - am I overreacting?

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It does seem condescending, unless there are clear areas of ownership and the xyz tasks fall under the other person

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Unless you’re encroaching on their tasks and they need you to back off

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