When someone on H1B (esp if they’re from a country with a long GC line) is dating/ marries a citizen, do you assume the visa played any role in their relationship? Not to the extent that it’s marriage fraud but thinking “oh they clearly planned this”. I feel like there’s a lot of stigma with such relationships but people could genuinely meet and get married, with no consideration for immigration status but it looms over their head whenever they talk about it with acquaintances.

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If you are genuinely in love, screw your acquittances who would question the integrity of your relationship. You don’t need their opinion and cannot let their opinion affect your future. And honestly, if anyone in your life just straight up making those assumptions, you don’t need them as your friend.

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I find that not trying to read into other people’s intentions so hard significantly increases my own quality of life

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Solid response! 👏🏽

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The thing is people can find faults with anything and everything. As long as your conscience is clear and you are not playing with the other person’s life, you should not give a crap about what others think.

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Only time can prove how genuine it is. Any marriage is beneficial to both parties in a lot of ways.

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I think in a lot of cases it's TRUE. Not that live or relationship isnt genuine but rather people marry before they are really ready because that's the only way to continue the relationship. A lot of Americans marry same way before they are ready. For health insurance.

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PQC3 yeah they do. Many ppl in America dont have access to or cant afford health insurance so if one spouse has employment with insurance and health issues come up (or pregnancy) marriage is the obv solution

Do you find it affects your dating life too.. like the minute you mention you're not a citizen prospects assume you want a green card..?

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I’d rather not be with someone who thinks that! Not everyone thinks that way. There are people who are very open and don’t assume that

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Everyone chooses a partner for materlialistic, non materliastic reasons.

Looks, money, religion, values, citizenship, career, etc.

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Yes, absolutely. Only you know truly what the reason is for you to get married to an American citizen. I have known people who through their actions reflect that it was pre-planned. Like netting a fish. Of course it’s not fraud since they are still married, but they purposely choose someone based on their citizenship amongst other things.

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It’s your life dude. Why care about what people think?

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☝🏻 this. is the exact reason why I’m patiently waiting for my GC from D eventho my American citizen boyfriend and I are getting married this year. My sense of pride from this question stings hard.

OP - you do you and what’s best for you and your relationship. What I’m doing is from the luxury of my circumstances and I acknowledge it.

Nobody is judging us but ourselves. We are our own worst enemy. :)

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Not any more thought to the situation than what I would have given if I see my friend marrying someone rich.

Is it for the money? Maybe
Is it my business? No

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