When you did your FET, did you choose the embryo based on gender (assuming they’re PGS tested)? I kind of want to but I also feel weird about it.

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We chose. I had a preference and it felt like the only silver lining in the whole process. We also only had one boy and I didn’t know if I could even get pregnant since I never had been before so we also wanted to wait to use that embryo. I honestly didn’t give it a thought if it was weird or not since everything else about the process was weird and hard and terrible.

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I would love to have this problem of choosing between multiple embryos!

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We asked for the strongest, and had one of each gender that was equally rated so chose from there. But at the end, just want a healthy baby so we would have taken what we could. Just transferred yesterday so now beings the TWW...

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Thank you! You too!!

I did select the gender. We had two embryos (one boy, one girl) and we rationalized it because the plan was to use both eventually. I still feel a little weird about it though! I later found out that this is illegal in Canada.

We did. We had only one girl and knew the first may not work so we chose a boy.

We didn’t. We had embryos from two different cycle and asked them to use the single embryo from the first cycle. Even if that were not the situation, we wouldn’t have chosen. We would have been happy just holding a healthy baby.

We did. My husband had strong preferences for a boy. It really feels weird.

The policy is that the RE should go with the highest and best grades embryo. If they are exactly the same then I don’t think it’s an issue if you choose. Didn’t matter for me. I have two boy embryos. One is almost 17 weeks inside of me and the other is patiently waiting his turn.

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