When you first met your SO, were you first attracted by looks and then personality or was never the best looking person but loved their personality?

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Energy, I could sense their chakra aligned with mine from across the canteen. Once I confirmed our star signs would align I knew they were the one. Been together 15 years since.

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He was cute. Still is cute after 7 years of marriage. Not usually the type I go for, but his intelligence is unparalleled by anyone I know. It made me realize that I am attracted to brains over handsomeness. Any day of the week.

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Looks/voice/mannerisms/energy first impression.
Personality came through the dates.

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Friendship lead to more interest in personality and then physically attracted. Not necessarily my “type” based on my past but it got me. SO is a very smart person, great critical thinker.

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Gotta be a combination of both

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Originally was not attracted as I had just gotten out of a relationship but the friendship grew on me and now we’re engaged!

Oh yes! Physical attraction wasn’t the issue. More mental avoidance while getting over the previous relationship

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