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This is way to close for my liking
If the cruise has destinations you can fly out early. Not sure what bank you are at but the analyst position is a few years and best friends are for life! Weddings hopefully only happen once :) There is more to life than banking - be there for your friend. If you are cranking the other 361 days of the year, she probably doesn't get to see much of you anyways. Something else - you are the one with the weird lifestyle choice, don't fall into the trap of resenting people for not understanding why you choose do something 95%+ of the population wouldn't do if they had the choice. Be grateful for the people in your life!!
Since she's your best friend have a heart to heart with her and see whether she'll be understanding. Does she understand the demands of your profession?
Might be the worst bang for your buck wedding I've ever heard of
I never considered a Disney cruise for my wedding. Will there be her favourite Disney characters?
I would say the time out from the office shouldn't be a problem. I have zero interest in grinding my staff 'just because'. I actively encourage my staff to take their holiday because I want 'fresh' people, I don't want exhausted people working for me without a break all year. On the other hand, the cost to attend is fairly high in my opinion but completely reflect what Lazard said - friends are for life. A job certainly isn't. Remember, your job is only loyal to you whilst they need you.
Thanks for all the responses and advice everyone! Appreciated. I'm not too worried about the time off minus the limited Internet part. I'm about to be an associate and have taken 3 days off in 3 years so not too concerned about what they think there. Still an issue since we are ramping up on a few deals and they are very lean deal teams. The cost I find to be outrageous mainly because she doesn't come from money and very confident that 95% of wedding guests will struggle to afford it. I think I'm a bit frustrated by forced cruise + cost + wedding gift expectation (+ bridesmaid dress, etc etc), but you're all correct - friends are for life so will definitely go through with it. Thanks again!
I've tried to explain it to her but people outside of our industry often just don't get it unfortunately. I'm excited for her and want to be there, but this is a bit much.
Side question - she's still expecting a gift as well I think based on her registry. Seems unreasonable?
You're an analyst. I'll let you in on a secret. They did deals before you were there and they'll do deals after you leave. Give your boss a heads up. Give your md a heads up too if your boss is a prick and go to the wedding and have fun. You'll make it up to them some over time. It's not the end of the world. And they can function for 4 days without you. Just make sure you come back with a picture of Mickey to make everyone at work jealous.
Yes everyone's favorite characters will be there haha might be the best part
Joking aside, not easy. Guests traveled for our wedding this incurred costs. But I would balk at a 4 day cruise and $1,200.
Agree with you, and I am grateful for friendships as they're hard to come by, but doesn't change that the expectations from her wedding guests in this situation are way too high.
Well sometimes people plan things like this to keep it small as opposed to everyone being able to come. It's a non confrontational way of people being left out without telling them no. Who knows.. Have fun! Sorry to hear about 3 days in 3 years..
I think why she's doing it is pure speculation. She's doing it. It may be unusual and expensive but we had family and friends travel to London from the States for ours. You've been asked to be a MOH. Not to be taken lightly. The bride and groom will always remember who did and did not attend. Perfectly legitimate reasons why people don't (noting we had some really lame ones) but if you can swing it, I think you should. It is their big day. I guarantee you will always appreciate those that do the same for you.
Agreed. I'd have been fine with a destination wedding, but not this to be honest. One other bridesmaid already dropped out
Couple things: 1) You could get four days off if you ask far in advance, 2) Holy moly, $1.2k is a lot!, 3) Yes, it does seem a little imposing and presumptuous - "Everyone come spend a fortune on my four day wedding event!", 4) Still expecting gifts is also a bit presumptuous, 5) Does she come from a lot of money? If so, might be worth explaining the demands this puts on a lot of normal folk - both financially and time-wise
Unless planning an expensive destination wedding and pushing much of the cost onto guests who can't afford it is completely out of character for your friend (in which case you should gently talk to her as her MOH), are you really going to be lifetime friends with someone who sounds kind of selfish? If she was at all angry or immature about the other bridesmaid dropping out, I think you have your answer.
Re: the registry- even if you don't care about gifts, you are encouraged to register because people like knowing what to get you if they so choose. Lots of family and friends are just accustomed to bringing gifts, especially if she has a shower. Source: I'm in the middle of wedding planning
Asking guests to pay $1200 to attend your wedding is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, your friend has issues. Other than that though, I really don't see why taking four days off work would be an ask, it's literally a compliance issue that most have to take a long break each year anyway. You have holiday time. Still, f* $1200.
Ew.. This is just gross