Which career path for a wife is best for those working in banking or consulting? Divorce rates are higher I hear with those woman who are just as career oriented as their husbands. Thoughts?

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As a man I cannot answer this question but as a husband, screw those people whose egos can’t put up with career-oriented partners. Choose a career path that makes you happy and fulfilled and find a significant other who supports you

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Are you a time traveler from the 1950s or something? What kind of question is this in 2021?? Divorce rates are higher for men with egos small enough not to accept an equally career-oriented partner.

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Good points but I noticed there is less patience and reconciliation efforts than our previous generation. We are so quick to leave or throw in the towel. This in turn can have an impact on both parties and severe impact on the children.

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Banker married to banker here. Works fine for us. Majority of our coworkers are men with stay at home wives. That said, it should be individual based on the wife’s personality and interests and the couple dynamic. There’s no blanket right answer here.

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Power couple!

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Divorce rates are higher because those career oriented women don’t depend on their spouse for financial support and aren’t as incentivized to stay in an unhappy marriage.

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I’ve worked with a lot of bankers who have stay at home partners and a lot of bankers who have banking spouses. Notwithstanding the woman’s opinion on the situation (which is important!!), I’d argue that stay at home is a worse arrangement as when you’re making banking income you typically have a nanny anyway and a lot of men get very resentful very quickly that their wives are spending so much money. Though as a woman in banking I think this is a pretty weird line of questioning and your risk of divorce is determined by how you and your future partner interact with eachother as individuals and you shouldn’t really generalize

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Be respectful of women and their choices. A happily married couple makes the best role models for their children. The thought that someone else should sacrifice their career for you is simply backwards and disrespectful.

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The best career path for a wife is to find a husband who supports her career goals no matter what those goals are and to divorce a husband who doesn't build her up personally and professionally so she can find a new one who does. Hope this helps!

(Source: am a wife)

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It's about what YOU want. If you let your banking job define YOUR personality...then there's a good chance that no matter what career your spouse has, you will soon want bigger better younger etc etc. The job eats empty souls.

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Here to listen to opinions and based on observations, not supporting one approach or another. Keep sharing, interesting points being made.

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Plot twist: Op is a marriage counselor conducting research from finance workers. Thanks for participating!

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Well whether OP is a sexist man seeking wife or a sexist marriage counselor I hope this thread made them realize women are people and not accessories to a man’s life

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From reading comments, and then the original question again, OP seems to be trying to find a way to save their marriage and concede to let wife find a job. I could be wrong but the comments are telling

I don't think it changes my answer, at least. The best career for a wife is whatever she wants and the question is a huge red flag about the health of the marriage.

OP, after reading our comments are you going to share your current situation and takeaways?

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