šŸ  who donā€™t want kids, have you thought about what happens later in life? I donā€™t want kids but my mom recently went through a lot of health issues and it got me thinking about who would be there...

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My wife and I are not having kids. We set aside money if we ever need full time care. If you don't want kids don't have them. Will cost a lot less to say put $100 a month away for 24 care if ever needed than having a kid who may never take care of you.

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We donā€™t have children and have plans/money set aside if we have catastrophic health failures requiring professional long term care.

While itā€™s nice to think family will be ā€œthereā€ if/when you need it as one ages, I assert that is a faulty assumption. My parents (now 80) have had several medical issues and I am ALWAYS the one who shows up to help them out. My older sibling is too self absorbed and narcissistic to ever offer to help in person or to provide financial assistance. Hate to say it but my sibling is proof that you cannot always rely on your children to help out aging parents

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If you're considering children for the sole reason that you want them to take care of you when you're older... don't have children. Please.

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Thatā€™s actually one of the main reasons a lot of people have kids

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I plan on taking up life threatening hobbies as I get older so that if I go out, it will be either because my parachute failed skydiving over the Florida Keys or Iā€™ve suffered from hypothermia climbing K2 or wild dogs have hunted me down in Inner Mongolia or Iā€™ve been eaten by lions on safari or a killer whale has mistaken me for a seal while kayaking in Alaska. All things I wouldnā€™t have the $$ to do if I spent it on kids. šŸ˜¬

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If itā€™s Healthcare you canā€™t bank on kids to take care of you so the advice above is sound (thatā€™s why there is such a business amongst nursing homes). If itā€™s to address loneliness, you will likely need to actively work on your social network. If itā€™s to feel like you need to leave a legacy then you can always adopt, volunteer, and contribute in other ways that are meaningful to you and impactful on society.

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As a child who is repeatedly told my existence is also insurance for old age care.....NO. We aren't insurance, nor investments against old age. Have kids if you want to, not because you want to use them for your own gain.

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M1 - Well hopefully your two year old daughter will defy the data points and globally recognized trend. Best of luck to you. šŸ‘šŸ»

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No kids for us, $250k to bring them up, cannot travel the world, hectic lifestyle, too many responsibilities, at 18 they relocate, may not be there to take care of you! Our life is peaceful and blissful...

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I worked for an MD and Director that didnā€™t have kids. Their lives were pathetic, nothing to do besides work and no hobbies after years on the road. Cleared that question right up for me.

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Iā€™d rather put away 1/4 of the money itā€™d take to raise a kid to cover long term care, and spend that other 3/4 on living an adventurous and enjoyable life

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EM1 - How is saving money for yourself more selfish than bringing a human into the world and obligating them to take care of you?

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Dd1 sorry but its not fun to die alone. Kids are bot just about old age care, its about family

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On same page as DD1 - I donā€™t have a gaping hole that only kids can fill - my family and friends are enough.

Still young enough to change mind, and if not, we can adopt

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M1, it is not laughable. Family is forever, but so are good friends. And you should not saddle anyone, that you are not paying, with the burden of caring for you

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Acc2 you went off of an assumption that is incorrect. As a daughter i will do ANYTHING for my family because my parents did everything and beyond for me. On the same note, i will not kick my daughter out at 18 and will support her till she needs me. Who takes care of me is irrelevant, what i can do for both generations is not a business transaction. I can hope my daughter takes after me, but i dont count on it. Partners at our firms who live for this job are sad role models and i will never want that life for myself

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Friends are family too and usually nicer

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Why is it always the ones with kids judging those who donā€™t want them? Iā€™ve never heard of a childless person telling a parent ā€œwow man you fucked up big timeā€. Just let ppl live how they want to.

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...for me later in life. I donā€™t know what my mom would have done if we hadnā€™t been there. Any thoughts to this?

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