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🐠 who have kids late (maybe after 35?), are you worried that your teenage kids might be embarrassed by how old you are? Other moms/dads are in their 30s, nice looking and cool, but we are in our late 40s even 50s.

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You’ll be further in your careers so just buy them a bmw for their 16th birthday and all their friends will be jealous of them.

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My best friend had her first kid at 25. We’re 38 now. She’s officially uncool, doesn’t know anything and is an embarrassment. Not sure if it’s our age thats causing the uncool status or the kids’ age. :)

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Not worried at all. Just had my kid at 35. My mom had me at 37 and that never happened (was never embarrassed or even very cognizant of her age). It’s WAY more common to have new parents in their 30s and even 40s these days as women focus more on their careers before having kids.

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Had my first at 40. I’ve earned my grey hairs and will be rocking them in the kindergarten pickup line.

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My mom had me at 44 and through my entire life she was decidedly cooler than the other moms. She was literally the one all my friends went to for advice. You’re really only as old as your feel.

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I don’t think kids are prioritising “nice looking and cool” parents 😬

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Riiighttt. My 7 year old thinks I’m sooo old and uncool already. (I’m 36) She even said on say that when she’s a teenager that I’ll be dead and she will need to figure out a job! I was like ‘I hope not to be dead by then’. Their perceptions of time are not well established until much older in life. Lol.

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My parents had kids between 37-42. My parents were settled in their career and themselves and had financial stability. We never went skiing and I had to do a lot of the heavy lifting by the time I moved out of college. My friends with younger parents saw more divorce, financial and career rollercoasters. I mostly noticed that my parents were smarter/wiser and more content and confident in themselves than my peers.

My husbands hometown community skewes the early side when it comes to having kids. Everyone had kids early 20s. His parents and friends have way less external life experience. And struggle more financially in the early years of parenting.

My aunt/uncle had a kid at 52/54 they sometimes get called grandparents but they are so happy.

You can’t help when you meet someone later in life. I say embrace it and go for it.

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I had a kid very young so I was the young cool mom and now I’m 45 and pregnant so I’ll be the geriatric one. I’m not worried at all. I’m just happy my husband and I are able to grow our family.

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I don’t think having kids btwn 35-40 makes you an old parent. This kind of thing is more noticeable for those who have them 45+ or so?

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Not at all. I had my first at 35, I’m 39 now and would give anything for a second. How cool I am when they’re teenagers is the least of my concern. I’m pretty sure they’ll have a million other reasons to hate me as teenagers anyway!

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We had our first at 27. Trying for #2 at 36.

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I do not care at all. I never thought about this when I was a teenager and my parents were geriatric by your standards.

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My mom had me at 36 and I did think she was slightly older than moms and I always wanted to be a slightly younger mom however I’m 31 now and single so most likely not going to be the case. However most of my married friends are just starting to have kids and the age of having kids has become less so it less of a worry about my kids thoughts for me now.

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I love all these responses!!

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Had my first at 36 and my second (and last) when I will be 39. Put career before everything, dont wait if you dont have to. I’m tired lol

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I feel you. Just had my first at 35 and wondering how much more energy I’d have and how much less achy I’d have been 10 years ago…haha.

People have kids at all ages these days! I have friends who started at 20, 24, 28, 34, 38, etc. I even know a guy who just had another baby at 60! Don’t worry about what other people think or might think. Do what is right for you and your family. I promise you the kids in your child’s class will have parents of all ages.

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Ha. No not at all. Parents in general are having kids later and later in life. I have friends with much older parents growing up. My parents were super young and less established. Me…. I’m 36 and currently pregnant with my 4th so not even phased by it.

I wouldn’t worry about it!

I'm 36 and my stepson is 12. My husband and I embarrass him ON PURPOSE. My husband and I are doing IUI right now and the thought of being uncool later on has not crossed our minds. Also my mom had me at 36 and I never thought of her as an old, uncool mom.

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