Who to tell before proposing?
I’m asking permission from her parents, but should I tell my parents? I want to keep the circle tight and keep it a surprise, but I also am not sure of the norm here!

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Your manager should know first and get his approval

likefunny

+1

I definitely think asking her parents’ permission is a nice touch. I told my parents and brother because I couldn’t imagine keeping something this big and important from them — plus, wouldn’t have been worth the Jewish guilt from my mother if I hadn’t told her beforehand 😬

Congrats to you and good luck!

like

My (Jewish) parents and siblings knew. I told her parents snd brother in person a month or so beforehand, just because I knew my fiancée didn't really care but would appreciate it. And I told a few close friends because they wanted to decorate our apartment while we were out that day. So maybe around 10-15 people knew overall.

And then her dad kinda ruined the surprise of the people waiting at the apartment and I regretted telling him anything 😂.

In before the “why are you asking permission!?!?” rage crowd.

I mentioned it to my parents beforehand but didn’t give them a timeframe. Felt like they still got to experience the surprise when I pulled the trigger.

like

Ok update. I didn’t ask. I told. But it was more of a way to win them over, make them feel involved and considered. I’m tradition but also progressive so thought this was a good balance

like

My husband told his Mom and "asked" My parents. He was living in LA and they were in Cleveland, so he called and they talked. I had no idea, nor did his siblings until he proposed.

Congrats and good luck!!!

like

So I guess I’m not really asking her parents permission. I’m more telling them my plans. I like that tradition. Including both parents though not just the father though.
I think I’ll tell my parents too, I just want it to be a surprise for some people you know…

like

My husband flew to Cleveland from LA to propose without me knowing. He had it all arranged with my parents. You got this!! Good for you! You'll pull this off and then the real excitement begins!!

I told both sets of parents and both sets of siblings.

If your close to your parents and siblings (if you have any), give them a heads up right before.

And congratulations! Enjoy the proposal day to the fullest and the engagement 🤍

if her parents dont give permission, is the wedding off?

Related Posts

Hi, I am a single-parent with a 9 year old daughter. Is anyone else dealing with same gender sleepovers with sexual exploration occurring? Exploring as in my daughter says outright “I am going to kiss you,” to her bestie before bed. Then after 15 minutes of giggling in bed I go to tell them to be quiet and see my daughter’s bestie is showing her buttcheeks to my daughter. To top it off they start trying to tell me they are laughing because they are reading “belly laugh books for kids”. Help.

Agencies that claim they have a no-assholes policy are brimming at the rafters and I’m about done with mine. Almost pulled a mic drop last week but I need to keep it together for my family.

likeupliftingfunny

NEED ADVICE: two good friends of mine (male, female) asked me if I’d like to be in a threesome with them (I’m a male). I thought they were kidding but they weren’t. I’m not into this, how do I let them down softly?

like

I don’t want to be married to my spouse any more.

likefunny

Is it bad to spend time with your SO every weekend? We’re both busy during the week so weekends are the only time we get

like

My bf and I call each other everytime we have free time. However lately he seems disinterested in phone time. He never initiates calls anymore and he tells me he wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live 4 hour apart. And agreed this is like living together from a distance, because I put him on the house speakers. What can I do to keep him engaged?

like

Ladies, what would you do if you find out your boyfriend/husband has attempted to cheat on you? (Hypothetical question)

Someone you love. How extreme would you go?

like

I was hoping this wouldn't be an issue but...masks are becoming a hot topic in our wedding planning. Getting married in a couple of months and my fiance's family is saying they won't come if masks unless all guests are wearing masks. My family has been firmly anti-masking through the whole thing. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

likefunny

When she was just 8 weeks which was 2 years back❣️

Post Photo
likeuplifting

Do most relationships "start" as one sided? I find it hard to have chemistry and intention from both sides and my friends suggest that I am sometimes too proud to continue initiating and pursuing.

like

BF and I have talked about 3 way or group for a while; the idea sounds very hot but not sure how to set boundaries, not make it weird, and do not damage relationship etc. want to spicy things up and have never done this before so want to be cautious. Also do you do it with people you know or strangers? Thanks friends!

like

Favorite mattress - couples / families only please! My husband is an extremely light sleeper so we want something that doesn’t wake him up when I toss / turn or when I come to bed (after workin late).

funny

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

like

Ex who dumped me abruptly before I planned on proposing reached out and wants to meet up 6 months later to try to get back together. I feel mostly anger towards her. Bad idea to accept and meet up

like

Would you (if yes, for how long) stay in a marriage for your child(toddler)?
I feel like raising my kid as a single parent, and with each passing day the number, severity and stupidity of arguments increase with no rational.

like

Engaged/married women, how much does your spouse financially support you? We’ve been in a pretty equitable split based on income.

like

Her unborn son to be hailed as "Associate" 😅

Post Photo
like

My fiancé wants to be invited to my informal happy hours with coworkers. I usually have one that lasts a couple hours each month. None of my other coworkers invite their SOs. She made a big deal out of it and I’m curious if anyone else has had this come up?

Not every person in the comments saying how great of a parent they are

Post Photo
like

More Posts

Any Deloitte SC or M willing to chat? I have a question about openings Deloitte

like

Do recruiters actually look at your education and early work life when you've reached a certain level of experience in the industry?

hi how much is the max LTA exemption? i have declared for 52k this year.

Seeing many SAP consultants having 2-3 yoe getting 10-12lpa easily now a days. What would be the appropriate salary for 11 yoe in SAP tech module? I'm looking for a switch after 7.5 yr and confused that what should be the base minimum which I should ask?

like

6 months pregnant here, unhappy with my job. Would it be stupid to interview now? Should I wait until after maternity leave?

like

Should I pay for the updated SHRM-SCP materials or is it ok to use the books from 2020. I hear the test has changed

like

Good Botox spot?

Who's better in your mind BDO or Grant Thornton?

like

Hi All,
I have cleared 1st round in Barclays. I need suggestions on the 2nd round i.e online assessment. This round is related to core values and mindset of Barclays. As per the HR this round is extremely important. Anyone can help me with the questionnaire please?
TIA

like

EY's HR team reached out to me for a role that involves skills that are extremely resonating with what I've to offer. They reached out to me via an automated call.

Wanted to know how long it takes for them to respond back. Can anyone help?

PS. I recently switched to my current company, only 9 months have passed here, will EY be okay with me being interested in switching companies so soon.

like

Is it allowed to do freelancing while being employed as full time employee at PS. I want to start it, but i am worried if I get caught, is anyone doing such project?

Anyone joined today?

like

Anyone want to share…What insurance companies would you recommend working for and what positions are available?

like

Why are you currently single? Go ahead, explain yourself. 😐

like

Hey, I’m a recent electrical engineer grad who currently is working full time for about 3 months. My goal is to get to work in a top tech company (Microsoft, ibm, Amazon,…etc). I don’t have the coding background that is required for software roles. Anyone knows what are the best noncoding roles to go for in these companies that relate to my major and what to recommend doing. Thank you!

like

Ex who dumped me abruptly before I planned on proposing reached out and wants to meet up 6 months later to try to get back together. I feel mostly anger towards her. Bad idea to accept and meet up

like

If you pronounce the t’s in Atlanta, you can kindly go back whence you came 😤

likefunnysmart

How do you deal with colorism that promotes diversity and inclusion in the workplace?

Need 11 likes for activating DM, please help.
Thank you :)

like

Is it possible to find a datejust 36 at retail with current market conditions?

like

Additional Posts in New York City

Hello! Hosting a mini fall event at my job. Does anyone know where I can order in bulk hot apple cider in NYC, maybe midtown area?

like

What classes/activities/hobbies are you all doing in the city?

like

Who wants to hit up spoken poetry this Friday? M37 no expectations.

like

If I'm looking to move to NYC in July, will all the good deals be gone if I start looking for apartments in June? I'm looking now and no one is willing to start a lease for even June 15th. Moving from DC so not sure about nyc market so how do I proceed?

like

Does anyone know any bars that have outdoor heated areas? Looking for somewhere somewhat covid safe

like

How do you guys find roommates?

like

Where can I find a spacious studio apartment under $1900? Willing to move to NJ too.

like

Any tips on getting rid of carpet beetles for good? I have tried boric acid powder which doesn’t seem to work. I am asking for product reco - i had been vacuuming and doing laundry religiously

like

Moving to NYC area soon. Should I live in Jersey City, Hoboken or Weehawken and why?

like

Any housekeeper recs? Murray hill

like

Missed connection at Acela lounge last night; you gave me your salad. Wish we exchanged numbers

like

Do moderate/conservative women in their 20s even exist in NYC? Doesn’t seem like it

likefunny

Is anyone’s ConEdison bill super high this month? Like 4x the usual amount.

like

Gentlemen, where to get custom clothing in the city?

like