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Why am I so afraid of telling my partner that I’m pregnant? I just got promoted and feel like it will make me look bad that I am going to go on leave during my first year as a manager. cont...

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I told him and he was so supportive. Made me feel like I was making it a big deal for no reason

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It’s ok to feel this way. I was pregnant when I got promoted and went on maternity immediately after my promotion. Did not affect anything much. Took an internal role after coming back and my company was fine with it.

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The beauty of public accounting is that there are multiple people at the same level. Your partner will find another manager to fill in during your absence and life will move on. Congrats on the babe!

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It’s normal to feel anxiety. Just know that this is just as normal as having to miss work for a cold, a stomach virus, to attend a loved one’s funeral, or to take the PTO you earn throughout the year. Every partner was born & has a mother. They understand where babies come from and how they are important to running the world when we all retire. It’s okay. Don’t worry! Congratulations! The work will get done, it would get done if you took a job in industry during your first year as a manager too.

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OP, I was very hesitant as well. I made every effort not to apologize for something that was a planned, methodical decision that I was excited about. However, it was difficult because I knew that my absence would impact the team. Agree with others that this is the beauty of public accounting. We are all replaceable and there are many others on-deck.

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I know I know, I can’t be reprimanded for being pregnant or anything

I was scared too! I waited til I was five months pregnant and it was super obvious at that point lol nothing bad happened once I told him. I think we put these preconceived negative thoughts on us but in reality it’s not that bad

@OP it was a big deal for you, valid feelings!

Telling people you’re pregnant is probably the best! I love getting happy reactions. Congratulations 🎈🎉

Congrats! Glad it went. Good luck with your pregnancy and onward!

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