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Why are people so flaky? Commonly seen in dating, but also in friendships. How do you deal with it?

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Be like butter 🧈, let it slip off you

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Social pressure. It feels good to make social plans and think of yourself as a person with connections/opportunities, but your actual appetite for socializing and building relationships is usually not that high. On the flip side, we’re so socially connected through the internet that we can overfill our buckets before it comes time to actually follow through with social plans.

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Thank you - carving out my future as a relationship/dating coach 😅

I'm an introvert and get a bit stressed commiting to things. So I end up not committing to everything and then force myself to go if I have said yes. But I almost always enjoy myself once I do get out.

In terms of dating, I think it's a matter of having so many options. Swipe, swipe, swipe. Get 5 convos going at once. Commit to a Friday date but then the other person you were really waiting on says yes, so you flake out. Ugh. Well I don't have enough game to ever be double booked outside of work 😂

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Honestly this is something I’ve been dealing with post grad. At first I understood because sometimes schedules change and we have to do adult things and maybe work a little bit later, etc. then it kept on happening. Firstly, I think it’s disrespectful to other times. I honestly just make a mental note of someone’s flakiness and honestly just started making other friends and plans. I sometimes will still include them in plans but always assume they might not come. Expectations low

Following. I wonder about this exact same thing 🤦🏻‍♀️

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