Why can’t some people wrap their heads around the fact that one can be okay being single and not willing to marry?

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Haha, with you on this one. I am trying to come out to my desi family and to ease into it I told them I don’t want to get married. The drama that ensued is out of control and I’m afraid of coming out now. Hoping it gets better with time as I’m about to hit 30!

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I think it’s not the fact that you don’t want to marry that puts people off, it is the perception that you are a loner when you say things like that.
There are many unconventional ways of having a relationship that don’t imply in getting married, most long term gay couples have open relationships exactly because the traditional marriage model is difficult to apply to two men. But in the end of the day, having someone that cares about you on a deeper level (not your parents) is the goal.

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I am confused, so are you saying it’s not okay to want to be single and/or be happy being single? Being single is not the same as being a loner, and neither is weird in any way as I am concerned. Each one to their own.

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👀 what's wrong with you for not wanting to emulate heteros?!?! (Jk, totally with you on this.)

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