Why do colleagues expect you to be always happy in your job/the project you are on? I am tired of pretending to be but every time I let my mask slip I feel people are judging me for being negative

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A manager once told me:

Attitude is important, and being “fun” and “happy” are positive attitude you’d want on a case. However, it’s not helpful to “fake” a good attitude. Instead, you should try to find situations that are fun and do make you happy—that should be the goal.

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I don’t think anyone expects one to be happy all the time but they do expect that the concerns are raised and discussed in a constructive manner so that it’s possible to support and facilitate conversations better.
PS: there are times when one breaks down and that’s fine but that shouldn’t be the go to norm.
Above all, choose your audience well. Avoid the ones who could take advantage of your vulnerability or portray you wrongly. Talk to the folks you trust to help you deal better at work.

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Thank you, I think picking the right audience and avoiding the ones I should avoid in my ‘negative times’ is a solid piece of advice.

For me personally it is not “always”, however it is about how your show up over time. I have a team member who is perpetually unhappy, gets stressed out by teeny tiny things and is very vocal about it, complaining about the job every single day. Since it’s constant it’s become part of his professional reputation and it is difficult to manage. I expect to work in a team of human beings, with highs and lows, but constant low is exhausting as it affects others on the team.

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