Why do I feel guilty for wanting to leave my employer for a better more paying job? I feel like I’ll be Letting them down because I do so much for everyone here

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Listen, if something happens to you tomorrow, your job will be posting a replacement for your role the very next day. So who should you be loyal to? Yourself or a company??

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I felt like this too. I was offered a position at an external company and actually accepted. Once I told my manager about it and started to put my two weeks, I was presented with another position within the team. Higher pay and ic2 vs ic1. No longer an admin but a different role still working with the larger team. Initially I was excited, now I’m back to feeling what I felt when I started looking for another job a few months ago. I constantly think about that external position and mostly regret not having the courage to walk away from that I have been at for nearly 16 years. I felt like I was disappointing them by leaving. Do it. Follow your initial feeling and know that, as they say above, they’ll replace you in an instant.

You need to ask yourself WHY do you want to take the job? Putting yourself first is usually one of the hardest things for women to do because we tend to put others needs before our own. If the answer to your WHY is something positive for your personal growth and development, do it! You will regret not taking the opportunity to put yourself first eventually if you don't! 🥰 Good luck!

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I think we all need this reminder on occasion! (I know I definitely do!) ❤️

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I used to feel like that before, but then I realized how easily replaceable we are. This is a part of growth and you have to do what’s best for you.

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It’s the people not the job. But they’ll understand.

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I completely understand this feeling. I received an offer for my dream job and I just feel this sense of guilt for wanted to take the new opportunity and leave my currently company because I’m worried about how they’ll stay afloat without me.

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Absolutely go for the dream job. Those don’t come along every day and you don’t want to regret letting that pass you by! Go for it !

I've felt this way before when I worked for a great company with wonderful people. But they understood my desire for growth and development beyond what they could offer. I was honest and transparent with them, kept it kind and stayed in touch. I have a great relationship with the company to this day and everyone knows it's not personal. Never burn bridges because it's a small world.

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I literally was just in your shoes. I made the effort to start interviewing and landed an offer. I had decided to leave my employer of 5 years and they didn’t let it happen. I came out with a $20k increase in salary. I just kept reminding myself that I needed to put my needs and my families before anything!

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As soon as you provide your notice of resignation, they’ll be hiring for your replacement. So, I don’t know why you feel guilty.

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I try to consider how I felt when people I hired left for something better. And I was always happy for them. Hopefully your team will feel the same.

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I feel this. I felt so guilty and when I got offered the position I struggled. At the end I had to focus on me. My career path, my mental health. Also learning new things. The guilt we feel is natural it will pass. ❤️

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You feel guilty in part because you’re human. You care about your work, the people, and the results can drive. I have the same problem. Live Nation 1 is right. You need to take care of yourself first. That doesn’t mean you’re greedy or self-centered, or that you’re taking somebody down, just that you have a sense of self-worth and are doing the right thing for yourself.

I used to be like that but realized - at the end of the day everyone is looking out for themselves and you should too. Your loyalty is to you and your family.
To be honest , companies are quick to replace

That guilt is so hard to shake right? But you have to do what’s best for you. I just started a role where I’m not indispensable and I was worried about disappointing new friends I’ve made because I’ve already decided to leave. But your job is not more important than your well-being and higher pay will be a benefit to you and maybe you’ll be less stressed in an environment where you aren’t doing everything for everyone but everything for you.

Do you have unhealthy boundaries with your work colleagues? Sometimes when you’ve “survived” an event or boss…those left may feel a need to stick together.

They rely on me too much where I’m having to pick up slack for their downfalls

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