Why does it feel like the app marriage / dating world has become largely about taking pictures with filters and heavily dressed up looks (for women)

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Coz they want to attract rich dudes? Nobody wants to marry an average person anymore, men or women.

At this rate, marriage is only going to be possible for filthy rich men, and Kim Kardashian like women. The rest of us will have to wait for hoor al ayn.

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I’m a married man, but I think that this trend isn’t specific to just dating apps but social media in general. I’m in my late 30s and It’s rare to see women around my age ever post a picture without filters on IG or Facebook. In addition to that the pictures are almost always of them ultra dolled up to look perfect. I feel like social media is just hurting a lot of women’s self esteem and it’s only going to get worse in the future.

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Yes, it’s a sad trend. I can understand wanting to present one’s best but this crosses into deception. Not a great way to start any relationship.

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Absolutely. It’s easy to adopt and normalize the exaggerated beauty standard especially when it’s ubiquitous on other social media platforms. I’ve even started to notice same filter applied to photos on different profiles that makes people look eerily similar.

If you are living in the west or in non Muslim majority country, chances of meeting a partner without apps or arranged is slim. Non Muslims don’t have that problem plus they start dating way early too. Most of the kids I went to school with back home(Muslim majority) found their spouses through college/university. For a lot of us it’s not easy in the west.

Now all the apps are heavily designed to so you swipe left or right. I mean honestly how many people even check out all the pictures even? Let alone reading a long bio.

It hurts both genders because we come across lots of good looking people in short amount of time (assuming you set a large distance filter) which pushes the bar high

Men are also more visual creatures compared to women. That’s why lowering the gaze applies more to men. Successful, rich guys regardless of religion mostly look for trophy wife. Someone people would say wow! someone who may give beautiful kids (men don’t admit it openly with the fear of backlash these days) that’s why so many successful, average looking women are single. Because they want successful men but successful men want really pretty girl
That’s why all these heavily filtered, makeup, brighten up pics imo

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That's true. And success is something that can be controlled by a person working hard (to an extent), whereas a woman's beauty isnt something she controls - It's what she is born with

Why don’t you concentrate on the personality in your interactions? The person will appear more attractive is you are emotionally compatible.

As far as looks are concerned, let the women project themselves the way they feel the most confident. It has more to do with that that deceit.

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Lol you think that’s only with dating apps? Try your local “SEEMA AUNTY” for more surprises .. 🤡🤡🤡 Ps. Someone who’s been asked to not share any pictures with (prescription) glasses.

Ohhhh haha

I think the issue is with both men and women tbh. Its the expectations of what each has for a spouse both visually, as well as other requirements.

Obviously im not talking about every single person, but it's a major trend. I feel this is true in the South Asian community (maybe in others too).

And yes with apps, as well as with the rishta route. I think non Muslims in general are more "real" when it comes to finding someone and focus more on the person, rather than a whole list of requirements.

Im also guilty of this too.

OP- don’t know if this is some sort of deja vu. Literally told my mom today that I’d rather get a non-muslim convert and marry me 🙊 now you can imagine her reaction.

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