Why is it so hard to find a guy who would be true to himself, so that I can assess him correctly, rather than manipulating his story to look like the kind of guy I would want? I reserve telling the g

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guy what I want in my partner for this very reason, to avoid them being fake presenting themselves as exactly what I say I want. They still “get a feel” as to what kind of girl they see me as, and present a version of them that isn’t true at all, hence can’t last. Got burned so many times by guys doing this! So annoying and it’s disrespectful to me as I waste time on wrong people.

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I mean this kindly - but when there is a pattern, it’s time to look in the mirror at why these are the guys you are picking. Therapy helped me when I was in a bad pattern. Post therapy, met my husband, who is amazing (been together 11 years, so not just a post wedding glow). There are good guys out there.

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And then there are also some confused guys who don’t know what they want smh

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Perhaps you should evaluate the criteria that is having you waste time on the wrong guys...

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