Why is it so hard to find a nice sweet mature boy, who has his shit together and will treat you right? 😔 This whole online dating / dating apps era has made people think they have unlimited options, so they can treat people however they wish to. It’s just depressing sometimes. Sorry, I’m just venting I guess. But I’m starting to wonder if I’m going to end up alone. Dating is hard! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Anyone else relate to this?

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100% relate to this but am M.

Online dating is a minefield where everyone seems to ghost for a better option, and no one wants to put it any effort - approach is a numbers game.

I can barely find F matches that will put any effort into a convo. I basically have to interrogate then to continue the conversation...based off personality traits of liking brunch, hiking, laughing, travel, and The Office. 😞

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I can't do numbers I am too exhausted for it lol

Thanks, all! I really appreciate the responses 🤗 It was just one of those days..
I’ve not had much experience with dating apps in the past and am constantly amazed at how easily people just choose to be carelessly selfish or rude in their interactions. Maybe this is normal, and you just gotta keep going until you find the true gems. *sigh* Wish I had thicker skin!

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Hmmm for thicker skin... Get into power lifting, bouldering, and possibly a nature preservation society (you can help kill off invasive species of tree, very fulfilling work).

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I find that men complain about females not being interesting or proactive and females face ghosting issues regularly. Clearly there are nice single people out there! How can we make this bowl more useful? Is it okay to randomly dm and chat ? (33F)

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Personally miracle would pass by with " I don't know what I want" lol

A lot of that simply depends on where you’re located and how easily you are to find by kind men.

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Sending hugs and good vibes.
Don't ever give up on what you deserve.
But do self reflect on what you need and the timeline/ situations you allow yourself to assess that.

Cheers,

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Hang in there Op. Keep socializing and avoiding toxic people and good things will eventually happen

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There is Tik Tok video which talks about bringing nothing to the table lol

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