Why so hard for guys to say “I don’t see our paths cross in the future” or “I am not interested anymore”.. instead of ghosting?

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I got ghosted by a woman recently so it goes both ways.

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Girls ghosts more I think overall but guys ghost more once you’ve seen each other for like more than a month. Lots of girls ghosting is after just a few dates/weeks etc. it’s equal

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I was ghosted by an immature little jackass after talking for almost a year, every single day. 🤦‍♀️🤣 he was my mechanic 🤣 still make him do my oil changes though. He hides in the shop. 🤣

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We did things lol but I wouldn’t consider it dating. Pretty sure he was scared. (He was a virgin 🤫)

I’m a dude. Had a no ghosting policy until recently. I will always give a polite and final statement to let them know I don’t want to continue speaking. But it can be a massive emotional lift to deal with the fallout from that if they are upset about it… especially when this happens a couple times a month. Still haven’t had to block anyone but I have considered blocking immediately after sending that message

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Agree with C1 that it goes both ways. I don’t usually ghost guys and will be upfront about not feeling a connection UNLESS they get super creepy (happens way more often than you would think), in which case they get blocked.

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Women definitely ghost too lol

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There was only one instance where a guy ghosted that really got me peeved. He asked me to hang out three times i said no and explained my reasoning being i had other things going on and wouldnt be free. The fourth time he asked i said yes and i would be free the following week instead, he said he would let me know his schedule next week to pick a day. After that he ghosts me completely. My issue wasnt the ghosting itself but the events leading up. If your intention was to ghost then do it from the start, dont ask me to hang out multiple times and then ghost when i finally say yes, its so petty. The guy was in his early 30s. OP I completely get what you mean, it is frustrating.

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My favorite was having a conversation with a guy about how much I hate ghosting and just take the time to say you aren’t interested… that bastard ghosted me shortly after

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Is it weird that it hurts less to be ghosted than to be told the truth? If I’ve been seeing someone for a while and I’m really into them, it would destroy my world to hear them say this. I’d rather be ghosted

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Respectfully, I’d say it goes both ways. It’s not just on the guys, but the ladies, and the they/thems too

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All my dates 👻me😭. 🧐

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Prior to today, after my last attempt at a relationship I wrote a note card with a coy "thank you for your interest, but at this time I will be pursuing other candidates." I gave it to her in person, with a Gregory's Coffee gift card, and asked if she had any questions for me.

She laughed at me and asked if I was conducting an exit interview and I said I was, and then we had coffee and moved on.

Cause why not be cute and silly at the same time?

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Sorry OP that boys are ghosting you. I think - as an outside observer - it has to do with the maturity of the man. And if they're willing to ghost, then what other red flags could have existed?

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