Just found out I’m pregnant but I have been having off an on back pain all over. It feels a little sore in certain areas. Not sure if it’s because I’m only sleeping on my sides or if this is common. Anyone else experience this before?
Gift suggestions for 2 year old boy. He is hyper active kid, Doesn’t play with toys but loves to run around and climb on anything.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about my relationship and how I’m not really that happy. Boyfriend is always upset at me for various reasons and treats me like I’m a burden (like I don’t know how to do anything and he has to parent me). He doesn’t seem interested in marrying me, but we’ve been together a long time. I’m thinking if the best time to go our separate ways is when the lease comes up, but I wanted to hear other ladies opinions.
So this weekend I found out that my favorite bar in NY is now childfree. Being a parent I can only have time to go to a bar during the day, with my kid. they have a swell backyard. 😕
For anyone that needs a laugh - I’m trying to baby wear my infant son more, but he has the worst gas. It’s like being strapped to a skunk! 😳😂
Mothers who have left their husbands in the first year of their first child’s life - talk to me about why you did it, whether there was a “straw that broke the camel’s back” and how you feel about everything now in retrospect. I really need some help thinking through this. I haven’t talked to anyone about it, and I don’t want to be rash.
Has anyone taught an admin’s child? I’m going to be teaching my new AP’s daughter this year and I’m so nervous!
My husband and I want to buy a new car and are TTC. Parents with 1 kid do you think an SUV is easier to manage with or a sedan works just as fine with all the baby stuff to carry around (stroller, extra clothes, etc). Am I just making a big deal over nothing? We currently have a 2 door car which is very impractical for more than 2 ppl.
Second time moms: just found out I’m pregnant with my second, 7 months before we planned to start trying 😳. My first is ~26 lbs - thoughts on lifting her? And when did you start showing? Any “second time” tips greatly appreciated!
Anyone heard of “honour killing” stories outside of movies from people you know IRL? This concept just seems so unreal to me. How does a parent kill their kid? Or do they not view them as their kid? Is there a history of dehumanisation happening before it gets to this point?
Is 210 enough to live an upper middle class life in Dallas? Not trying to come off as shallow just genuinely trying to understand. Have a $300K offer in NJ and $210k offer in Dallas (single income, small family) and want to make sure I’m able to give my family a great life. Dallas seems like amazing place to raise a kid, but it’s also not as cheap as everyone seems to think. The houses we want are $650-$700K range. Insight appreciated
Let’s start a conversation around parental leave - how is it at your firm? Does your firm do enough to support new parents? What changes can we make in our industry to better support working parents? Share your stories and thoughts!
Anyone deal with post partum depression or depletion? I’m so foggy (18 months after 2nd child)
Resigning on parental leave: how much notice should I give? I know two weeks is standard but I truly don’t have any work to transition while on parental leave. Any risk to them dropping me off payroll immediately? For context, it is a big4 strategy practice.
Does Microsoft let you use parental leave in the 1st year? I'll be 8months in if I accept the offer
I’m going back to work after maternity leave soon. Any tips on how to feel like you’re put together even though you may be running on very little sleep?
First time dad of an 18 months old baby. She won't be going back to the daycare and will have a full time nanny. What are some way to ensure that she is still getting exposed to other and not socially awkward? I am thinking to sign her up for some activities when things slow down with Covid but I'm not sure If that's enough.
Good or bad time to head out on parental leave?
I decided to freeze my eggs and it makes me sad to realise that I might be an evolutionary failure forcing against nature. It also feels that by freezing my eggs I'm giving up on meeting a partner to have a child naturally. Anyone felt similarly?
Baby girl name suggestions please.
Anyone use Chase for investing? Thoughts on it?
Currently an MBA student considering an internship offer near Santa Clarita, CA. Have always wanted to spend some time near LA area but would likely room alone and am wondering if I’d have a lonely
Looking for a Gay male doctor in NYC. Want a doctor I can talk to openly about sexual health, especially about colorectal health and reducing risks of disease/cancer in that area.
For people who left for google - how many years were you at big 4? I want to apply for an entry level role to google bc I rlly just cant stand big4 but only been here for less than 2 years.
I work at a mid tier firm and my average raise over 5.5 years in public accounting has been 8%. Then this past year my bonus was $5k. How does that compare to other firms?
Hi - I am at a T2 strategy firm, relatively new, and am being asked to choose between Life Sciences and Healthcare (payer). In terms of longer term trajectory, interesting work, etc. which should I choose? Don’t have too much experience in either. Thank you all and apologies for the vague question.
I already have a Term Life and Health insurance from my job. Is there another reason to consider getting additional life insurance outside? I’m 33F, single, and may stay at my job for max 2 more years - but another employer I’d switch to, I presume, will also provide a term life for employees
How is it possible Partners ignore performance data to promote and are seemingly never held accountable for when their promotion doesn’t pan out?
For B4 partners, what happens to your shares if you leave the firm before vesting? E.g. if you left 3 years after making partner
What would be the VMware salary for P3 grade joining as ML Engineer for mid-west or west coast region in US?
Had anyone ever asked for experience letters (evidence of emloyment and resignation) when leaving their company? Should you ask for such a letter for green card purposes?
Senior up for promo to manager in audit in next year. Have decided I do not want to be an auditor. Which of these paths do you think is best? 1. Stay 1 more year, exit to industry with manager title. 2. Move to advisory internally, but most likely would have to do one more year in audit and move as audit manager to advisory sr 3. Exit immediately into industry to try for accounting manager title / senior accountant or sr fin analyst 4. Exit immediately to advisory senior at another big 4 firm
For all ex-Deloitte 🐠 I’m in advisory. Leaving 3 months before my 2 years is up. How does the sign on bonus repayment work? Do they take it out of our final check? Or PTO payout? If I wanted to talk to someone about prorating the amount to pay back, who would that be and at what point do I do that? I appreciate any input!
How do I transition to tax technology software data scientist? I started boot camp last and I’m doing Python right now and after 7 days I’d say I’m intermediate to advanced already. Should I start applying to coding jobs now?
Tier 2 to MBB at Manager level? I have a "round 0" discussion with a senior MBB partner this week and am not feeling excited by it. I'm currently at a strong practice at a T2, and am considering whether the upside of moving outweighs the risk. I'm in the UK, where there is a meaningful pay delta at the same level, and expect TC would be 20-25% more. I do feel like I'm paid pretty well as it is. My typical hours are 55-60, with occasional peaks at 70. (Continued below)
10/2020: I got laid off due to COVID. 10/2020 to 05/2021: I put over a hundred job apps for industry roles. I got multiple interviews and many unsuccessful final rounds. 06/2021:I am happy to share that I’ve received an offer for a 6 figures role in IA which is a 66% bump from my previous role!If you got laid off or not and you’re still looking for a better opportunity, don’t give up because believing is achieving!
I’m currently contributing 6% to my 401k and 3% to a Roth 401k. I’m 25 - should I be contributing more or is this okay? I live in nyc
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