WOC here. A white (female) CD always attributes what I contribute to a call or presentation to other, typically more senior women on the call. We’ve been on projects together for over a year now and this has happened on a variety work-streams. Am I reading into it? Have others experienced something similar?

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I have seen that happening frequently, and has happened to me many times....I empathize with you and understand how frustrating that it. The way I have been approaching this, is every time that happens, i find a way to get back in the conversation or add something like “ thanks Xx, and as I shared before in the presentation/as I said before, i think going this way and doing (new contribution/or whatever else i want to add) is a good way to proceed”. This person has started to notice and has corrected her ways. IS ANNOYING AF - but you have to stand up for yourself!!! because unfortunately, as I have found out, no one else is going to do it for you. Xx

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This is really helpful, I appreciate the tactical advice. It really HAS blown my mind that the women who are credited for what I say in a presentation or call stay silent. Even if they’re 3+ levels above me, they don’t correct this person or somehow reinsert my name as a, “yes that was a great point by ___.” Again, grateful for the practical tips and the affirmation 🙏

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Put your name on your work. It’s a bit of a power move, but I’ve seen it used to great effect. A subtle “prepared by X” in the corner of a slide. No one dares remove it.

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Get an ally. Find someone who you trust and confide in them, so they stand up for you. I’m so sorry. I’m a WW and have seen other WW doing this... I always try to stand up for whoever is being shit on if they are not in a position of power after examining my privilege.

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I appreciate that. I mentioned it to one of my VPs but they only witnessed one instance (of many) and sort of dismissed it. If anything, I appreciate the affirmation that I’m not reading into or dwelling on it

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Are these contributions that you’re not getting an opportunity to deliver or present visibly, yourself? Could you frame it as asking for more opportunities to directly present?

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Hi — no these are points I’ve voiced over whether as I present a deck or brief to the broader team or chime in with a prompt, build, etc. I legit feel she doesn’t see/hear me

I experience this ALL THE TIME. It’s exhausting. Sometimes I literally just finish saying something and the Group director attributes my adds to anyone else from the team. Sometimes EVEN a man!!

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I’m relieved but also disappointed that I’m not alone in this 😔

At the same time, the strategist in me is intrigued.. what’s the psychology behind this? What is it these folks need to un/learn to STOP doing this? Would love to just better understand 🤔🙄

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