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Hi all,
Does your organization have a good work-life balance, especially for IDs? Or do you know any such organisation? Currently I am working for more than 12 hours a day. I am a mother of one year old, hence, want to switch to the organization, which has less work pressure.
Wil be grateful to you for the suggestions. Accenture Cognizant MindTickle Encora IBM Infosys
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Op- without making this about gender, I would ask your manager this- hey John, I felt that you weren't too happy with my presentation since you were jumping in. Can you tell me what can I do to get better? Put it on him to show you the ropes.
Don't listen to the trolls about "whining". I'm a woman and this used to happen to me all the time until I built up my confidence, spoke in a more firm tone, and men have backed off. It's definitely an issue in this industry.
How is this whining?
He did not do the same to my male (same level as me) colleague. Really undercut my credibility. The male colleague uses more um's and filler words. How should I address this with my manager? Don't want it to happen again
I am starting to feel like there's one person from D trolling all the posts on fishbowl to give D a douchey reputation. Can't imagine how else it's #alwaysDeloitte
Next time he does it kick him in the balls. That should teach that misogynistic prick a lesson.
^you are not whining. Sorry missed a word there
You should absolutely bring it up. I received this feedback on my first manager gig. I thought I was "backing them up," but they felt the same way you expressed.
Schedule time on his calendar for private feedback. Let him give you feedback, and bring this up if he talks about your presentation skills. If he doesn't, bring it up at the end when he asks if you have any questions.
^^Speaking louder and with a more outwardly confident tone is the advice I usually get. I also just keep talking so they realise im not done yet.
They were talking on NPR the other day about how women were cut off significantly more often than men, even if they are experts in their field. Can't remember the speaker, but it was on Marketplace last week (20-24 March)
A1 I like that. What do you think if he says "it was great!"
Ladies ladies- a little tact goes a long way. One of our biggest weakness is we get too emotional. You can get things to go your way if you know how to play the game. Do not call out your manager or undermine him in front of your client or team mate. This will not get you far.
Then tell him awh since you are jumping in I wasn't sure! Thanks for your feedback. And watch him dance to your beat next time :)
2 methods of approach... 1. Sit him down with the person that he reports to and explain to him what he is doing, why it is unacceptable, and that it needs to stop immediately. OR 2. Wait for him to do it again, stop your presentation, and ask him in front of everyone why he thinks this is acceptable and to allow you to present without further interruptions. You have to be assertive.
D1- she is not complaining. If she does what most of us telling her it would be soliciting feedback. Which is totally fine.
A3 - that's awful advice. You never undercut a superior in front of a client. Also, pulling out a recording of a meeting sounds very accusatory.
OP this happens to me all the time, from males. You'll have to find a way to shut them down politely by saying something like "thank you for repeating that Bob, now moving on..."
If OP feels it's because she's a female, there's a good reason for it. When a minority says they feel as though they are being discriminated against, or have experienced racism, you shouldn't argue against it. People are fairly certain when something like that is going on. I'm sure there are some mistakes occasionally, but when someone says I experienced racism, or sexism, I do not argue they haven't, nor downplay their situation. OP has reasons, and vented. Some ppl on this app came down on her to argue it was EVERYTHING except sexism 🙄
Make one on one meeting time with him. Talk to him professionally and nicely too..and ask I just wanted to know if there is some feedback you would like to give me for my presentation because i couldn't help but notice that the other colleague talked throughout the whole presentation and I felt like I was making a lot of mistakes or something ? Also Look him in the eye, do not look away, show confidence and that you don't like being messed with. You'd be surprised a lot of sexist males sit around and people who tell you to just stop whinning and deal with it are sexist. Also next time record presentations or meetings if you're with him..so you have records just in case. Record the 1:1 meetings you have with him.