Women who use men for food, dinners, dates are so grimy. I haven’t had this done to me thankfully but female associates have openly admitted this to me and I lose so much respect for them.

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What about men who use women to have sex and then ghost?

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Really not that invested in this, it’s clear you intend to believe what you want so there’s no point continuing. I’m just giving you the information you asked for.

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I don’t know any woman above the age of 22 who openly admits to doing this just for food. I know women who try to go on lots of dates - in pursuit of their SO - but not women who are so desperate for a meal, that they do this.

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I know many women in their mid-late 20s in NYC that do this and don’t make any attempt to hide it from friends (some not even from their dates once the meal is ordered). It’s an expensive city and most people aren’t looking to settle down.

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I'm a guy. But from the women's perspective, I completely support women that flip the deck on creepy guys and get drinks and food on them. Guys can be so creepy. Women don't get to use men like this in a vacuum. It happens because men think there is something transactional happening here. I would guess that most of these women tried to wave off the guys before and they didn't take no for an answer.

Are you talking about going on Tinder dates just to get dinner and then bugging out? I guess that happens, but it is what it is.

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Nah not always the case I have a female friend that openly admits to leading guys on for gain. She has 0 interests in them, and laughs about the fact that they do so much for her.

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I use women for the HOV lane

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But it's harder making friends after you ditch them at the rest area

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People who post judgmental messages like this are grimy to me.

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If I made a post saying “people who are homophobic make me sick” are you gonna comment saying it’s judgmental and grimy 🙄

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Lmao at the idea that anyone is using an app for free food. Like, be honest you’re not dating homeless women. Working professionals can afford their own meals - why on earth would they spend hours with your awkward ass for a free meal? I would literally pay to not have to have an awkward dinner with someone.

Anyone who believes this probably just can’t carry a conversation in real life and would rather believe this than the likely reality that they suck to be around. She gave you a chance - you just blew it.

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that sounds so exhausting.

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Ikr! I pains me to even imagine being that desperate

Ok I don’t personally condone this practice, but this is ridiculous. As women have been used my men just as much or more for the same or worse. Both are wrong. Stop generalizing.

Every time I hear a man gripe about having to take a girl out on a date all I can think is “Omg who would want you anyway.” You don’t *have* to get laid. That’s your choice. God forbid you wine and dine us first, before getting your rocks off. Gimme a break.

Food and drinks are like the currency of dating. It’s what you spend and invest to get to know someone else - of your own choosing. If you don’t wanna spend money/effort don’t magically expect to find yourself in a warm loving relationship.

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Female here. My coworkers talked about doing this to men and I was completely irritated. Must be a US culture thing, it’s not like that everywhere.

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They don’t tell you about having to give up some a$$ at the end of the night.

Use how? 🤔🤔

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