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Wondering if any of you have an SO who is more of an effeminate man? Was the physical attraction slower to appear, but formed as you got to know them more? I’ve gone out twice with a guy whose personality I like, but the physical attraction is taking longer to appear as he’s not my usual type. He’s a software engineer, a bit introverted, tall and slender, not athletic, and his voice and mannerisms are kind of feminine (he was raised by his mom and sister, makes sense?), which is new to me

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In my experience, if you have to force atttraction, it's doomed to begin with. I once convinced myself the guy I was with was so nice and kind (I know, the bar was low) that I should get over my lack of attraction. I went against my gut. Five years of little to no physical intimacy and quiet but deep unhappiness followed. It took a lot of therapy to rebuild my confidence and understand that as a woman, it is not my job to fit around someone else and fix them, or accept anything u don't want or like, and it's ok to want your partner to be attractive. Secuality is nothing to be ashamed of. Don't shame yourself into a relationship. I highly recommend that you read Women Don't Owe You Pretty by Florence Given. Changed my life. Good luck and much love ❤️

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Same same to all of your comment, including Pete.

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My SO and I do face masks together and we both are not super into sports. Men don’t need to be stereotypically manly and honestly what is feminine? Gender is fluid anyways and it’s all a social construct. He makes me laugh and we’ve been together a long time. We also have incredible chemistry. You need to do what feels right and push past what you think society wants.

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My current husband was not that attractive to me when we first went out - neither physically or emotionally. But we stayed friends and eventually I saw him for who he is all around, and boom. We didn’t force things - it just happened over lots of time. No need to force it if it isn’t there. If it’s meant to happen, it will happen.

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I experienced something similar recently with the guy I’ve been dating for 6 months. I was instantly attracted to his intelligence and ability to converse but isn’t like guys I’ve dated previously (built, 6’3”+, jocky, etc). The guy I’m seeing is 6’1”, on the lean side, “nerdy” (he’s in IT). It sort of just clicked one night and I found myself very much attracted to him. He’s beyond attentive in and out of the bedroom which is totally new for me. If you’re up for it, I would say give it a chance and see where it goes. But if you’re just not attracted to him then maybe you’re better off as friends?

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I’m not as athletic as I used to be (basketball and softball) but more so into walking, hiking, HIIT and yoga these days. I enjoy these on my own and also have a weekly date with my bestie for a morning walk. The boy and I have done some hiking and outdoor walks. He’s evening hinted he’d do any other activities with me if I’d like company. So far I’m still solo on most but of course welcome the company at times.

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I remember telling a girl friend that I was not really attracted to my current husband before we started dating exclusively. I was open to a relationship (this was during college) and gradually my love for him grew even if I don't feel the raw sexual desire like I feel attraction to other guys. He's handsome at times but not a grade a hottie If you're OK with how that works out and you can get sexual pleasure otherwise, I think let yourself be open to how this new partner can satisfy your other relationship needs and see if you become more attracted to him as a whole person

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OP, dating someone who is "not your usual type" can lead to amazing things. I love my boyfriend to pieces and we are about to get engaged. I couldn't be more thrilled! He's not the typical boy-next-door physical type, but I think he's very handsome 😊. He's the sweetest, smartest, kindest man I have ever met. Not exactly effeminate, but definitely not as "masculine" acting as most Midwestern country guys are where I live. And yes, the physical attraction grew tremendously as I spent more time with him. I cannot imagine trading any part of him for a relationship with someone with a lesser character and personality but "classic good looks." If you really like his personality, see where it goes!

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If I'm neutral about guys' appearances, I've had attraction develop as I get to know them. If I'm turned off by guys' appearances, I become less attracted with time. If you have time, check out the mere-exposure effect, which basically says that repeated exposures to something increase our familiarity with it, which makes us like it more. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect

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Thanks for sending the link! Definitely remember hearing about this before. I do think he’s an objectively attractive person, so I am hoping it develops more as I get to know more about him 🙏🏽

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