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Working on a tech team with only men?? I’m a new hire as of last year and I’ve wanted to work in consulting or tech snd I got my dream job being able to do both. Im realizing now that I don’t like this specific position nor do I like my team. They are all older (40+) men and many are from other countries. It’s hard enough on boarding online and adding miscommunication being online, only men team, not knowing the culture, etc. how do I feel with this in the best way? Or anyone else deal with this

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1) start networking with other facets of the organization. Reach out and schedule coffee chats and see if there’s a better fit elsewhere in the company. 2) do you have a female manager? Chances are she’s dealt with having all men teams. Don’t be scared to flag it and get some coaching on it. 3) Sometimes our bias about working in all male teams is our own and we feel scared to speak up because society has told us to be scared to speak up. Put gender aside and don’t be afraid to take charge and get your voice heard.

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1. I never framed it like that, not sure where you got that feel free to point it out if that’s the case bc again I’m from a foreign country and I don’t take making fun of others from different backgrounds lightly. I specifically wrote that language barriers, being online, being the only woman, etc etc etc are ALL stacking up against me. Even if only one thing was to change it wouldn’t help me and my one example was even if my whole team was woman it still wouldn’t change anything. Same thing with language, let’s say my team is all from the us and have English degrees, it still wouldn’t change the rest of the factors. I specifically stated multiple times that EVERYTHING I’ve stated as an issue is making me not feel the most welcomed. 2. You’re completely right this isn’t a sorority and I never saw it like that but I do wish I had a bit more support. New hires were told we would be given training and mentors etc but the training for my team is useless and it doesn’t relate to anything I’m doing and I had to seek out my own mentors and ask them to guide me. Just seems that this team is not the most hr focused and just down to the technicals. I’ve been planning on switching teams and that’s why I’ve been talking to other lateral positions I can move to and they are much more open than my team in general 3. I never had a tone and I wasn’t getting defensive. I was just stating that your observations (which were basically saying that I was blaming my problems on people bc they’re from a different country and saying I was assuming they are not competent and qualified and their accent makes them lessor and that I have an unhealthy viewpoint - all your words not mine). I never said those things and never blamed these people. It’s honestly more humor than defensiveness bc you assumed I am white and was being annoyed at peoples accents when that’s the opposite of who I am and I was annoyed at my situation with all the factors put together. I was just trying to clearly put out my statement since you seemed to have misunderstood. Not sure at all how me clarifying is giving you a tone. I simply was asking you not to put words into my mouth. It’s just funny you keep making assumptions such as I have a tone, I’m reacting defensively, I don’t accept feedback well, I’m entitled, when you realized your first assumptions were wrong and it seems you are getting defensive. I never attacked you but somehow you are slowing attempting to throw daggers at me. I’m sorry you think me clarifying my situation is me being entitled or rude but we’re online and Our only communication is text so all I was doing was trying to communicate it more clearly like your advice.

Same situation. Work in tech and have never had a problem until I’ve come to current organisation with all male team, all senior not from my culture. Have been cut out of all meaningful work and have become an assistant to the boys. No projects of my own (not a single one in ten months!). Needless to say I’m currently interviewing for other roles

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Are you me? Bc this is exactly how I feel - an assistant to the men. My first position was senior associate as a university hire bc of someone leaving so I know I’m capable but seems no one else thinks so. But at this point I’m confused and every time I ask a question it’s either completely misinterpreted (not really their fault just being online is hard) or it’s shut down. I gave up and am just getting paid to do nothing all day.

I was afraid of that too (new joiner, strategy consulting, all male team). I had a first bad experience and then having a male manager was impossible for me. But I was forced staffed on a project with only men and... it was one of my main projects!! Just realise it actually doesn’t make any difference. This is a biais so don’t be afraid and try to connect with other persons outside of your team!

Thanks for the advice! Did you start during the pandemic? I think there’s many factors working against me here but if I had been in person to meet my coworkers I think that would ease a lot of my stress. Unfortunately with never seeing any of my teams faces it’s so hard to tell if they’re paying attention to what I’m saying, see how they’re reacting, and sometimes I forget to unmute myself and the moments gone. If you did start during the pandemic how did you build those bonds? Currently I’m trying to have one on ones with everyone on my team but still no one has their cameras on and then mute when I’m talking.

Understand what you are going through - I’ve had the same experience. But I think it’s getting better. That said, maybe you can do something to get to know your team better. It sounds like you don’t like the team because they are all men and not from the US. As a first generation Indian in the US, it was hard to me too. And if the roles were changed, and a man said he doesn’t like a team because they are all women from Latin America or India, we’d be very offended!

As a first gen Indian born and raised in India for my childhood I feel the same way. I only had a limited character count but essentially what I’m saying is there’s multiple factors that aren’t working for me -working online, no cameras on/haven’t seen any of my teams faces, can’t see reactions, all men team, all older ppl team (40+), most members from abroad (Europe or India - not talking about their accents or saying they’re dumb they’re actually much more capable than I will ever be, just pointing out there are different ways cultures interpret questions and the way they’re being asked as well as just in general each team within a company within one city has completely different views on new hires so having people from all around the globe they’re expectations of me are extremely varied and I get confused as well), I don’t like my current position in general, etc. I even replied to the first comment stating even if one factor changed i.e., an all woman team instead, everyone spoke perfect English and graduated with English degrees, my position was different, etc there’s still the rest of these factors that are stacking up.

Work in tech and have faced challenges with team members and clients. Not necessarily going to solve your problem but here are a few things that you could potentially try or take into consideration. 1) my current team doesn't like turning on camera, so no compulsion. Some days when I feel like it, I turn on my camera, regardless of if anyone else does or not. Some turn on camera when they see someone else turning it on. 2) If turning on camera is a big deal for you, why not suggest that may be for some of the internal meetings you all turn on camera. Or even for your one on one sessions, ask them to turn on camera after you have. I often join one on one calls without camera and if the other person turns it on, then I will reciprocate. 3) if you are having trouble with communication, then try rephrasing your questions. There are many ways to ask the same question. Right now it is your own team members, what if it is a client that you have similar issues with. Having lead multiple global projects which client and team members from various countries, communication can be challenging but not impossible. You can find what works with each person. It is a trial and error until you find what clicks. 4) speak to your manager/coach and ask for guidance. They are there to help you navigate the organization. 5) it could be just a bad project. We all have them. Get the work done the best you can. Raise concerns you have and hopefully the project isn't too long and you get through it. My first project in consulting, didn't like it much and worked with leadership to get me out of the project earlier than planned without negatively affecting the project. In consulting you are always building your brand, make sure it is the right brand you want.

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