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Honestly, IMHO this is the type of thing people pretend to be supportive about but will use against you. I’d keep it to myself
It makes me sad, but this was my first thought. We say we want a diverse industry but neurodiversity is a long way off.
It's no one's business.
If it’s not affecting the quality of your work then it’s not worth volunteering personal information. You’re good!
No one’s business. In my experience people will openly be supportive of your vulnerabilities, but ultimately judge you and use it against you when it suits their agenda. It really is too bad, though. But you can use your own personal experience to be supportive of your coworkers who are all dealing with their own challenges, whether they are open about them or not. And I hope you will.
I don’t hide my bipolar disorder if it comes up and is relevant, but I wouldn’t bring it up proactively.
I am a chronic oversharer and have gotten mixed results.
If it comes up and you feel comfortable sharing, I say go for it! I find it endears me to people who are open about this stuff. I’m personally open with my depression/anxiety as well as my sobriety. I don’t talk about any of it constantly, but I also don’t feel it’s anything to hide. I hope more and more people will grow to feel the same, which part of why I don’t keep it secret. Talking about it helps normalize it 🖤
I’m the same way. Dealt with the same issues (anxiety, depression and addiction) for a large part of my life and have been sober for a while as well.
I don’t promote it but will bring it up if I feel it’s appropriate, especially if it could help someone else.
But like you said, I never hide it. If someone really wants to get to know me, it comes out.
One of the developers that used to work for me - who I had no prior knowledge of being bipolar - changed his medication and ended up going through a really difficult time. His work/output suffered tremendously, to the point that I was ready to fire him, but he finally managed to explain the situation to me and I immediately gave him 2 weeks off and time to adjust - assuring him that I would be fully supportive moving forward (he was ready to quit - but I talked him out of it). He is a great guy and went on to become one of my most valued team members. YEARS later, he reached back out to me to express his gratitude towards my kindness and patience all those years ago during that difficulty period in his life - which turned out to be a lot more complicated than just the new meds.
Ultimately, do what you feel is right. You certainly don’t have to share, but if you feel the need to, I hope you have a team that is committed to your well-being and is fully supportive - anyone with a mental health condition certainly deserves that.
I think if it’s a “work wife/hus” situation, sure, I think vulnerability and showing your authentic self can strengthen work bonds. But as everyone else is saying in this thread, I would be selective, if at all, about who you choose to share that information with.
Apples to oranges: Recovering alcoholic here. Sober a long time. Open and honest about it — but still nobody’s business. Especially in an interview.
So wait, you want to be more open about but also feel that people will judge you for it?
I say fuck it and go with your gut. If people are going to judge you for something that doesn’t affect your work or personality on a daily basis, then maybe they’re the ones who need psychological help.
I think it’s ironic that you’re the one instigating. I get that my advice was bad but making the leap to assume that I’m a certain writer is lame.
It’s nobody’s business. I can’t see how being open about it will help you. It may not hurt, although it might, but it definitely won’t help. It’s personal.
Echoing google 1. People can be cruel and may use it against you. Not fair and it’s ignorant. Ask yourself how long you’ve been at the company. How have others been treated ? Who are your current allies? Do you have a trusted work bestie you could confide in? I would think about starting there. Sending you good luck. Wait - actually, figure out your corporate counseling options, they can provide support and perspective, they know what’s going on to a certain degree from others who come to them.
Oh wow no it’s no one’s business. Talk to a therapist, close friend or family if you need support but don’t buy in for a minute that people won’t hold it against you. Besides the balance of meds often doesn’t last forever, eventually something needs to be recalibrated and the last thing you’ll need is more scrutiny if you have an off day.
So well said.
Don’t say anything.
I wish things were different, but I had a friend who was open with everyone they worked with and it did increase bias.
However, in talking it through with them in the future it would be helpful to find that one person (or two if you’re lucky) on your team that you can trust. Best case scenario, your manager, which is rare as we all know.
That person can be your accountability partner to help watch your blind splits when going through a tough time.
I empathize, good luck friend! I’m sure you’ll make the best decision for your needs.
How do you want to be open about it? Why?