Would / Did you get a prenup? Curious about why or why not

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The only person who wins in a divorce is an attorney. It’s in their best interest to drag things out and pit you against one another. If you have kids, this can be incredibly traumatizing. A pre-nup, to me, is protection from dealing with that.

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While the attorney could have incentive for that, a good one isn’t going to intentionally put you against each other. I had a really good one who understood I just wanted things to be done quickly. I am pro prenup though. I think it just simplifies things and protects both parties.

Hope for the best, plan for the worst. When you get married, you can’t conceive that someday, you might fall out of love. A pre-nup is a safety net and hopefully, you’ll never need it.

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Just for some extra data points, search past threads in this bowl, there have been a few posts on this topic so you’d get some anecdotes.

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Oh thanks!

I want a prenup but idk how my boyfriend would feel about it. My thought is surrounding kids, house, etc. Like others mentioned

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I got a simple prenup, mostly saying anything we inherit stays in respective families. It was something my grandmother asked all her grandkids to do. She didn’t have much but she wanted to know whatever she gave us would stay in the family. How could a fiance say no to grannie? :)

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Like I said she didn’t have much, we are talking furniture and a couple pieces of jewelry from grannie. We also defined our retirement accounts as our own and I got emotional about alimony so my husband removed the clause on alimony. We are happily married and will not have to refer to it anyway… but good to have the conversation!

Of course. A prenup is downside protection. Won’t get married without one 💁🏾‍♀️

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Yes, I have one, and I would recommend one - it's an insurance policy (something you should have just on case, but hope not to use). It's not something you get because you're hoping or expect the marriage to fail (idk why so many people think that), but rather something that let's you work through important questions together and decide what you want to happen IF things don't work out without high emotions you would be experiencing during a divorce.

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Everyone has a prenup, but the terms are dependent on whether or not you let the state decide for you.

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