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Would/ Did you pierce your daughter’s ears? Why/ why not?
(Mature discussion only. Please keep judgement to yourself. Thanks!)

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My parents did not and i asked my parents to get my ears pierced when i was 13 because I got jealous of my friends who did. My mom immediately took me to a proper piercing shop and we got it done that same weekend I asked for it. I think this is the way to go. I was old enough to understand that I had to take care of it and my mom took me to a clean sterile and professional place to get it done properly. I was a little bummed that I couldn't immediately wear all the cutest earrings because it should heal for at least 2 weeks before I start swapping anything out. But my mom did gift me a beautiful pair of earrings as my first pair and that was really sweet.

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I got them pierced before I was a few weeks old. I grew up as a tomboy (no makeup until late college, loose clothing, ponytails only, etc) and started wearing earrings after I became more "girly" in college. It was great because my holes never closed up despite me not wearing earrings from elementary until college. I got a second piercing in college and unfortunately got a keloid in one ear and remoced both my second piercings and they closed up (I tried tea tree oil, salt, everything the internet recommended) even though I was taking care of them. Im super grateful that I had piercings as a newborn because I'm not sure if I would have been able to do it later in life due to the keloid issue in one ear.

Very different perspective and even though I was a huge tomboy having holes in my ears did not impact me negatively - I never noticed them.

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“Keep your judgment to yourself,” says OP, only to judge the many of us who elected to wait for our daughters to decide for themselves. 🙄

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On that note, Happy Friday! Hope you’re not too affected by weather or pandemic restrictions, and can enjoy the weekend! Peace and Love to all! 😊

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Someone gave me really good advice that I plan to follow which was - get them pierced when she’s old enough to take care of them herself. By that age she’s old enough to make the choice and then I don’t have to deal with the hassle of keeping them clean.

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This is what I did. I’d always told my 2 girls they could do it at 10, which is when I had mine done. One has had it done- and afterward she agreed it was good she waited because they aren’t easy to care for or change out. My younger daughter stopped asking to get them done when she saw what her sister had to do.
Personally I’d never want to care for an infants/ toddlers ears... why add yet another thing to the long list of things you need to care for with a baby? To each his/ her own, but breast feeding and teething was enough for me!

I think it’s their body, their choice > societal’s pressure to immediately pierce/mark a baby’s body based on their genitalia

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Their body their choice full stop.

I want it to be the child’s choice. They also need to be able to take responsibility for the required care.

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I won’t do it until my daughter is old enough to ask for it. It’s her body and should be her decision. There is no need for it to be done, so I don’t feel right about doing it to her. I’d rather wait until I can take her to have them done because she wants them done.

I realize all the babies are fine and hardly remember it, but it just doesn’t sit right with me. A friend of mine recently posted a video on Instagram getting her infants ears pierced and the baby looked so confused and frightened. I realize she was likely completely fine immediately afterwards, but it just made me decide I’d rather wait.

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I pierced my ears when I was 17 and I really wish my parents would have done it when I was a baby and couldn’t feel the pain or deal with the anxiety that I was definitely getting an infection

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I should caveat this by saying that my sister did it for me at home with a needle that we sterilized with alcohol and fire (yes we were young and I hope my kids have more sense than I did) but hence the infection anxiety

Agree with the comments that I’ll wait until my daughter is old enough to ask and take care of it herself. I had to wait until I was 16 and I think that was too long. I think it was just an arbitrary number my mom came up with, and stuck with it. I have no problem with it, it certainly wasn’t a requirement.

But I wouldn’t pierce my son’s ears so I won’t pierce my daughter’s. I’d also be paranoid that as a baby she’d play with them, they’d come out, she’d choke, etc. It would be an unnecessary stress for me.

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I honestly think it’s cultural. Piercing ears for infants is common in many black, Latino, Indian, and some Asian cultures. My ears were pierced as a newborn before I left the hospital. I got my daughter’s ears pierced as soon as I could (ear nose and throat doctor did it when she was 3 months).

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Yes, agreed. I am Hispanic and pierced my daughters ears at 3 months at the pediatrician office. Mine were done when I was a baby as well....

I had mine done as a kid and the piercing is sort of low for my earlobes now - I wish I had waited because you can’t really fix it. I got second holes and sometimes use those for heavier earrings but still- yikes

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I got mine as a baby by a professional and they are a little tiny bit high. So I can't really do those minimalist earrings without it looking weird (probably only me who even notices though) . That's fine, I do statement studs or heavy hanging ones instead.
But something to note when babies are so young.

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I did it when I was 14 ish I think. I asked for it and my mom (who had never gotten her ears pierced either) did it with me so that we could experience it together, because I was afraid of the pain. I thought this was so awesome.
I definitely want to wait until my kids are old enough to ask for it.

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I waited for my girls to ask. First asked around 8 and it went well. Second asked around 6 but we ultimately had an issue and had to take them out. She repierced at 8 after healing. Third daughter also pierced at 8. The first 2 piercings were Claire and last 2 was a tattoo shop. The tattoo shop was so much more hygienic and a better experiwnce.

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This is interesting, I’ve also heard that tattoo shops are best to get ears pierced. Our pediatrician will do it before 3 months so great that there are many options

As someone who has a lot of piercings and piercer friends, I’d recommend you at least wait until you can get it done by a professional piercer with a needle, not a gun. Guns are notoriously unhygienic and impossible to sterilize properly so risk of infection is high. Also the piercing can come out lopsided and leave lot of scar tissue if done with a gun.

Piercings on babies can end up lopsided anyway since their ears are still growing. Thought I’d give a more piercing focused perspective since you got a lot of body autonomy thoughts😊

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My parents made the decision to only pierce my ears once I asked for it. I asked for it when I was about 4 years old apparently 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Same situation for me. I asked at 3 because my older sister got hers done at 5 and I wanted them too.

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I got mine pierced at 13. My husband pierced his ears in HS. My daughter wants her ears pierced but I told her she needs to demonstrate that she can take care of them. She has some orthodontia now and is doing an awesome job so we will likely let her get them pierced before the end of the year if she still wants to. By then she will be 10.

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I let my daughter decide when she was ready- she was 12 when she decided to do it. That said, to each their own - there are often cultural norms at play so I say whatever you decide is right foe you and your daughter is the right thing.

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My ears were pierced as a newborn- day 5, I believe. I got my 2nd one when I was 20 & the 3rd a year later. Got my cartilage piercing at 30. The last one was the most painful.
Both my girls had them as soon as the Peds allowed it @ 6 months. We are Indian and this is very normal for us. Infact, even some boys get ears pierced as infants in certain parts of India. Do as you will, To each their own.

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My parents had my ears pierced when I was an infant, before my second birthday. Works well for me because I never had to worry about the holes closing up!

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I wish I had pierced my daughter’s ears as a baby, but her dad thought different and I didn’t fight it - other battles to be won. But now she’s almost three and I can’t see doing it before she’s 5.

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I got my daughter’s ears pierced as soon as I could! She was an infant and along with the myriad of other things we had to do as parents this was one more so not a big deal. She’s now 17 and has a second ear piercing. If she ever didn’t want the piercing she could have let it close or not worn earrings...

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