Would like an opinion: what if you found out your fiancé had a fling with someone at work and she denies it. Gives me reason to assume it's still going on - what do folks think?

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Break up and observe her reaction to assess the value of your relationship. Then, hope to reject the null hypothesis. Good luck 😉

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I found irrefutable evidence

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You need to share this "irrefutable evidence" of yours for us to provide you an in-depth analysis. Come on.

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Everyone has done things in their past that are shameful enough to lie about. If your proof is irrefutable and she doesn't want to talk about it, you should probably postpone the wedding. Regardless of who is right/wrong there seems to be a lack of trust from both sides.

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I feel you have to confront her with the evidence. For all we know it could be because it's so irrelevant to her that she doesn't want it to be a big deal. Or maybe your coworker had a SO at the time and she was the other woman. Only one way to find out..

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People still interested in getting married? Im probably jaded.. but really hate the social construct

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Marriage is not going to work if there is no trust so you have an issue that you have to sort out. I've been married for many years.

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How do you know it happened if she says it didn't happen?

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Eeks. That's no way of starting you're happily ever after together! Sorry!

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Gs3, love the statistical analysis lol

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First off I'm very sorry to hear - at this point it should be a question of why exactly she is hiding it and why exactly it happened? Usually ppl act out when there are fundamental problems at hand. Ppl can be foolish but the timing of this and the denial makes it a little concerning. I think there are underlying issues that you need to address before taking the plunge...at the end of the day she is lying to herself if she doesn't address it and that's not something you want to be apart of. It's only just the beginning - life married is long.

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Show her the evidence you've been given and ask her just to be honest. If you still don't trust her, then marriage is not the right thing for you as a couple

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I assume the fling happened before you were dating? If you have evidence it is still going on, probably time to call off the engagement. If happened before she knew you / you were dating, who cares? Think about all the stupid things you used to do.

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EMAILS?! Wow. Evidence cannot be better than that. Mind sharing the level of flirtation behind the content of those emails? Have you already confronted her or still waiting?

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*your. Sorry. Autocorrect

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Have a fling with someone at Barclays so you re even Stevens

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Blow her up at the wedding. Shame her in front of her family and friends.

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What JPM3 said ^^^

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There were damning e-mails

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I read on the elevator screen today that 70% of people have a "work spouse"....

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