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Would love to hear from moms whose babies went to daycare / school right after maternity leave (no nanny etc). Due in March and on the list for a stellar Montessori daycare / preschool near us to start in August (school year) when baby is 4-5 months old. Feeling guilty and struggling to decide if keeping baby home a year with a nanny is better, starting school in 2023? However, I’m worried about cost - we really would not be able to afford a nanny in our city on our salaries. Advice welcome!

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Downside of early daycare is definitely the sickness. Downside of a nanny is that you have to figure out backup care if they get sick or need time off. My little guy went to daycare at 4 months and I honestly loved it from the start. His teachers are warm, competent, and capable and he loves being with other kids. Just as important for me was the lack of management required on my end. At the end of the day, a nanny is an employee and you need to set expectations and build schedules. Daycare is much more plug n play.

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Agreed with all of this: 1) build up immune system 2) so many babies and new toys to play with! 3) more adults to love her 4) more coverage when one adult is sick 5) less management responsibilities for me

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We did daycare right after mat/pat leave at 7 months. The socialization and care was awesome- we also made mommy and daddy friends very quickly and got the babies together in the park. Like everyone said, they get sick a lot. A HUGE factor these days is Covid closures and Covid protocols. Daycare itself could close at a moment’s notice due to an outbreak + daycare may have extensive protocol for your kid to return even if they don’t have Covid (for example, ours required a Covid test to return to daycare any time he was sick, plus doctors note). He was out of school for several weeks out 2 months bc of all of this, although the center never closed down. We then did a nanny for 4 months to save our jobs. Starting daycare again in a week and nervous about the same things.

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Thank you, everyone for these lovely posts!! They are so reassuring and I really appreciate the mom community here ❤️

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No experience but I’m in the same boat. First child due in April. Planning for daycare in Sept (if we can get off a waitlist). Same concerns as you but it’s definitely the cheapest option and I work from home and worry a nanny with the baby at home will be a distraction from my work. Know it will be hard though!

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Have you already got a spot in daycare? My biggest learning with daycare was that there is a wait list and that in my HCOL is at minimum 1 year. At the very least, if you are interested in daycare sometime in year 1, start registering and visiting the daycares to see which one fits your need.

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Good thinking! No great advice except whenever you start childcare, it’s rough. My kid started at 9 months and it was rough for me, not for him! He loved being at daycare.

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With my first two I sent them to daycare at 3 months. It was definitely harder for me than them. They were wonderfully cared for and had socialization with other babies. The consistency in routine benefited all of us. The downside was that they do get sick a lot during that first year. Both my kids seemed to always have a minimum of a runny nose. But overall the positives outweighed the negatives. I’m pregnant now with my third and am strongly considering taking a year off to stay home with the babe. Partly due to concerns with Covid but partly due to the expected chaos of having three young kids.

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My LO has been in daycare since 5 months. Yes, the sickness is unavoidable. But you will have to deal with it at some point. I absolutely love the routine and social aspect of daycare. The daycare teachers fixed the sleep issue I had with my daughter in a week and I was struggling for 5 months! Having a good routine has been such a key in her development as well.

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Weird thought on the sickness point, but, as new mom, I'm almost glad we ripped off the bandaid and both learned how to take care of a sick kid and accepted that my kid needs to get sick sometimes. A friend's son just started preschool and caught his first significant illness at 3 and she was (understandably) a wreck. Meanwhile, I'm already done with COVID, RSV, hand foot mouth, and 9M colds and I trust in both my ability to care for my kid and his immune system. That being said, not sure that last sentence does much to sell daycare 🤣🤣

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Both my girls started daycare at 4 months and it was hard on me. After a few days they were totally fine. I think because they were also younger in their classes it made them get up and go earlier to keep up with the other babies (walked at 10 and 9 months). Their teachers loved them and I always felt they were safe and taken care of. In my opinion daycare has been better for our family.

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Mine has been in daycare since 4 months. He loves it there, has learned Spanish, and they taught him manners, utensils, alphabet, counting, everything! He is 3.5yo and thriving. Planning to do the same with number 2 on the way.

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Both of ours have been in their Montessori daycare since they were 6 months old!

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My son started at 3 months, he loves daycare. I did feel guilty at first but his teachers were awesome and now I enjoy hearing him talk about his friends and how his day went. He’s 3 yo now.

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