Would you be a second wife to be able to keep your career? Asking for a friend

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Absolutely never in a million years. No. I’m hoping this is a joke. If you’re a guy, 🤮. If you’re a lady, please look for someone who will take care of you and treat you like the special person you are.

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OP: I hope you find someone who values you and helps you in achieving your ambitions. As a guy, as a Muslim, I think there is nothing wrong in it as it is permissible and if there is an understanding between all three. I knew someone whom I dearly loved and wanted to marry. I still know that 90% if her problems will go away InshaAllah but our parents (mostly mine) were dead against it. The thought has always crossed my mind where I'd tell / ask my to-be wife (approved by parents) well in advance if I can marry this other girl too after certain period of time.

In life we face situations we'd have never imagined and the solutions also seem to lie in situations which we'd never have imagined. Things with this girl are so bad that I cry and make Dua asking Allah to help her. Wow, I'm getting emotional just saying these things. I hope and pray that Allah helps you find happiness .

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For all those saying it’s permissible, it may be, but it’s also highly discouraged. In this day/age I cannot fathom why any person would need two spouses. Especially since I’m so many circumstances one or both will eventually be wronged.

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Not sure why you say its highly discouraged...WHO discourages it?its just matter of which voice you choose to listen to. The bottom line is that it is permissible but ofcourse it comes with its responsibilities

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Interesting... Would love to hear thoughts from the women in this bowl

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Honestly, I dont know why most people on here are flatly rejecting the idea when we know it is permissible. As a female, I would be okay with it if thats what my husband really wanted. I know its not the norm in our society but there are ways it could work out as long as the husband understands each wife's rights and observes his duty towards us.

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If you’re ok with having a second wife (with or without divorcing the first one), you should be ok being a second husband (with or without divorcing the first one). Simple equality rule of thumb bro 💁🏻

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Damn! I dun even know what to think. This is some good shit.

Is the first wife okay with it?

That’s sickness. 🤮

@D1 Clearly you are not married yet. Can you work 40hrs a week at 2 places? Can you drive 2 cars at the same time? If you can the you can have 2 wives too. I do agree the rule is there and its permissible. However, its not for everyone. Not everyone can realistically do it and have a good life. I have seen a case where the first wife got mentally sick and after 3-4 years the guy got married to a widow with 3 kids and they got their 4th kid together. You can see the rule is there for special cases. Its not other way around.

Yeah I was talking about special cases only.

The way I see it, I have a busy schedule and am usually traveling. Very difficult to find someone who wants that and don't want to do anything impermissible.

OP: So you have someone in mind you'd like to marry?

OP: I like the idea. I travel a lot too and I'm fairly practicing (don't drink,eat halal, pray everyday).

If you would like to know more, my burner is holycrab4@gmail.com

Respectfully, fuck no. It shouldn’t be either or. If he can’t appreciate you in all your glory and flaws, he shouldn’t be able to call you his girl. I have married friends who live in different cities because each got an opportunity elsewhere and they make it work. Mon-Thurs travel is nothing

Yassss SC1 spittin that truth

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