If someone brought me cake even if I am technically busy doing something at home I would stop grab the cake and say thank you!!!! You were being thoughtful. 🚩 also some of the things he said that you put sound narcisstic. If he actually comments and says he’s really good looking you should be happy to be with him or something along those lines…he is going to rationalize a lot of things based on his looks. That being said is he even really that good looking? Hahaha. Lol.
Too many missing details from original post, but from OP comment, she did give him a heads up that she would be in the neighborhood, so not completely unannounced. My gut is saying this guy is cheating (or he’s married and OP is the unknowing mistress). Keep us in the loop once you dump the bastard lok
lol tbh I barely post on here but I really need to know what other people think about this situation men and women point of view! Called my BF told him was going to be around his area need to run some errands , asked him want to hang out if I am going to be around why not we live 1 hour away from each other I only see him in the weekends , he didn’t say yes or no he said I will be working for little bit(he works from home) I went run my errand bought him his favorite chocolate and went to his house so I could surprise him , he didn’t open the door and start texting me that will call the security if I don’t leave his house that I was invading his privacy 🤔 wtf I can’t come to my BF house? He threaten me and 1 hour later he calls me saying what is wrong with me , why would I come to his house with out an invite he said clearly he didn’t want to see “he never said that”, and why I had to ruined this that I did all wrong and that’s all my fault . I am trying to understand this !
I should’ve but I left scares about him calling security. We are done , he keeps texting and blaming me. I am a clown to be with someone like him! Thank y’all for your advise !
I was thinking he’s just a narcissist and manipulator and will blame you if you don’t do things his way. Or maybe he’s cheating🤭. If he was, why would he call back to check and see what was wrong with me? If now I am okay, we can talk about what happened.
I agree, we have different ways to operate, but that doesn’t give anyone an excuse to treat someone like that and call security like you weren’t already in a relationship with me; I was a stranger. That’s over, thank God; he’s still texting, but that was the last red flag I needed to run away.
I dated someone who was very similar if not identical. They reacted very similarly with surprises, when they was out of town on work, at work. It took me some time to get to know them, and I realized they didn’t cheat. A lot had to do with their background/ past, family, a late career progression and some traumatic experiences. Dealing with work/ people on a day to day basis took a lot of their focus and energy and they would get exhausted making it very hard for them to deal with certain situations/ surprises.
While it’s not normal, I had an appreciation for their challenges after investing a lot of time. This behavior doesn’t go away overnight. You’ll have to deal with some of it with trust.
You just have to decide if this is something you want to deal with or not in the long term.
That’s very odd to me. I personally have never had a relationship where my partner would talk to me in this manner. Nor would ever be upset if I came over. Based on your responses it seems like you know what to do. What do you want from a partner in a relationship, is it this? If not, then there is better out there. Don’t settle
Lol He’s not bad, but there are a lot of beautiful people around the world that don’t have this trashy attitude. To be honest, his looks aren't worth his attitude.I could find good-looking people more humble.🙄
Doesn’t sound like a normal reaction from a bf or even a friend. I mean, to some people, surprises can be uncomfortable but never to the level where they’ll threatening you to leave
Let’s add a storm to the scenarios and threaten messages about how if you don’t leave, they will call security because you're invading their privacy even though he or she is your partner.
Let’s add that the partner is actually inside the apartment with the person they’re cheating on you with and that’s why they were going to call security and started gaslighting it’s because they didn’t want to get caught cheating they’ve done this before and they’ll do it again they’re a habitual cheater
Sounds more like an insignificant other...
If someone brought me cake even if I am technically busy doing something at home I would stop grab the cake and say thank you!!!! You were being thoughtful. 🚩 also some of the things he said that you put sound narcisstic. If he actually comments and says he’s really good looking you should be happy to be with him or something along those lines…he is going to rationalize a lot of things based on his looks. That being said is he even really that good looking? Hahaha. Lol.
Ya he’s cheating. Sorry.
Wtf this sounds like something a monster would do
Agree !
Honestly, this person doesn’t want to be with you. This is an extremely strange reaction to a nice gesture. 100% dump this person. Immediately.
Lol that’s savage! I would ask them to communicate better but not leave someone outside unless you have something to hide 🤔
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Too many missing details from original post, but from OP comment, she did give him a heads up that she would be in the neighborhood, so not completely unannounced. My gut is saying this guy is cheating (or he’s married and OP is the unknowing mistress). Keep us in the loop once you dump the bastard lok
lol tbh I barely post on here but I really need to know what other people think about this situation men and women point of view! Called my BF told him was going to be around his area need to run some errands , asked him want to hang out if I am going to be around why not we live 1 hour away from each other I only see him in the weekends , he didn’t say yes or no he said I will be working for little bit(he works from home) I went run my errand bought him his favorite chocolate and went to his house so I could surprise him , he didn’t open the door and start texting me that will call the security if I don’t leave his house that I was invading his privacy 🤔 wtf I can’t come to my BF house? He threaten me and 1 hour later he calls me saying what is wrong with me , why would I come to his house with out an invite he said clearly he didn’t want to see “he never said that”, and why I had to ruined this that I did all wrong and that’s all my fault . I am trying to understand this !
I should’ve but I left scares about him calling security. We are done , he keeps texting and blaming me. I am a clown to be with someone like him! Thank y’all for your advise !
I was thinking he’s just a narcissist and manipulator and will blame you if you don’t do things his way. Or maybe he’s cheating🤭. If he was, why would he call back to check and see what was wrong with me? If now I am okay, we can talk about what happened.
...and you picked up!? After ALL that... 😐 "I will call security on you"!? SMH🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Bro does not know how to cover his tracks
I agree, we have different ways to operate, but that doesn’t give anyone an excuse to treat someone like that and call security like you weren’t already in a relationship with me; I was a stranger. That’s over, thank God; he’s still texting, but that was the last red flag I needed to run away.
No more texting….. block him so you aren’t tempted to respond with him.
Give us the full story lol
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Regardless if he was cheating or not, this is not normal. Were you exclusive?
Invading my privacy; call security 🙄 run forest run 🏃♀️
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I’ll give you another perspective.
I dated someone who was very similar if not identical. They reacted very similarly with surprises, when they was out of town on work, at work. It took me some time to get to know them, and I realized they didn’t cheat. A lot had to do with their background/ past, family, a late career progression and some traumatic experiences. Dealing with work/ people on a day to day basis took a lot of their focus and energy and they would get exhausted making it very hard for them to deal with certain situations/ surprises.
While it’s not normal, I had an appreciation for their challenges after investing a lot of time. This behavior doesn’t go away overnight. You’ll have to deal with some of it with trust.
You just have to decide if this is something you want to deal with or not in the long term.
Oh hey, I am definitely that person to a T. I’ve also been single for years and getting back into a relationship is definitely an adjustment.
That’s very odd to me. I personally have never had a relationship where my partner would talk to me in this manner. Nor would ever be upset if I came over.
Based on your responses it seems like you know what to do.
What do you want from a partner in a relationship, is it this? If not, then there is better out there. Don’t settle
Lol He’s not bad, but there are a lot of beautiful people around the world that don’t have this trashy attitude. To be honest, his looks aren't worth his attitude.I could find good-looking people more humble.🙄
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Of course not, In fact, I would be very excited my gf came over out of the blue.
People can only hide their “crazy” for six months. His timing was perfect.
Leave…… and don’t look back. You are dodging a bullet.
Doesn’t sound like a normal reaction from a bf or even a friend. I mean, to some people, surprises can be uncomfortable but never to the level where they’ll threatening you to leave
Let’s add a storm to the scenarios and threaten messages about how if you don’t leave, they will call security because you're invading their privacy even though he or she is your partner.
Let’s add that the partner is actually inside the apartment with the person they’re cheating on you with and that’s why they were going to call security and started gaslighting it’s because they didn’t want to get caught cheating they’ve done this before and they’ll do it again they’re a habitual cheater
Was he hiding a mistress 🤔