Would you break up with a SO who refuses to get tested despite his roommate having COVID and still plans on seeing vulnerable and unvaxxed family for the holidays? He frequently downplays COVID, criticizes those who take it seriously, and makes up his own rules (“well we weren’t sharing drinks or anything just near each other”) when it comes to exposures and hasn’t told me ab them on many occasions. He knows full well I have immunocompromised family, but says he has the right to his opinion.

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If you were to get married and have kids do you think he would support you? Would he be a good role model for the kids? Would he be involved? Would he do the things that you’d want him to do?

If the answers to these questions are no, then yes, time to end it.

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Naaaah he’s just making stuff up to fit his narrative (aka his values). I stand by my original opinion.

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Yes because I would expect someone I’m dating to care about how I feel / the anxiety and stress they’re causing by not agreeing together on what’s acceptable/what they should share with you.
I don’t need them to agree with me but would expect them to at least care about how they effect me and my well being

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THIS is my issue.

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100% yes I would not only break up with this person but warn his family about his irresponsible behavior. What an ashhat.

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OP that’s the funniest Covid conspiracy I’ve heard yet! Lol

100%. Someone who is careless and thoughtless about other people’s health has no business in my romantic life. That is very telling of their character. He can have his opinion away from me and my family

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I would; he's being extremely selfish to put your family at risk.

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Very obviously a compatibility difference-imagine having kids…this would not be tenable long term.

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Absolutely would break up. Not solely because of refusing to get tested (e.g., if he just wants to operate like he’s positive and isolate because there’s a good chance he is and just save a nose swab) but sounds like an inconsiderate partner and human being in general.

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I absolutely would.

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Yeah. And from your other comments, OP, I also would NOT accept that family for in-laws.

BIG YIKES!

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I think you’re here looking for validation for what you already seem to have decided on. Godspeed, OP!

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Yes because he seems like an asshole. You can have differing opinions on this and still treat others respectfully.
If he’s so nonchalant about COVID he should know to stay away from immunocompromised family. And you’d also have to stay away too, so if I wanted to see them and he wouldn’t change his behavior I would break up. Also with how he’s acted I wouldn’t trust him if he said he’d be safer.

Personally I agree with him that it’s overblown for healthy, young people, and I’m personally willing to take the “risks” to resume normal life. I also respect others enough to understand that they are scared and possibly not healthy and that it is a real threat to them.
He seems petty and that’s a bad red flag for a serious relationship.

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Yes. There are some things in life that are non negotiable for me in life. Not taking COVID seriously is one of them

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Yes

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Not sure I’d break up with him if everything else about the relationship is good. If there are other problems then yes, this could put it over the edge.

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