Would you do paid work for your ex? Background: we were together for 7 years raising a blended family. The last year was during Covid shut downs. It was stressful and horrible at times. He cheated and then told me I (and my kids) needed to move out. It’s been 18 months of messy healing living at my mom’s. I’m doing much better and finally looking for steady work so I can buy my own house. 0 interest in him. But I do need paying jobs. Is it worth it? Worried about losing my peace of mind.

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So incredibly sorry this happened to you. I would never give him, or anyone like that the egotistical satisfaction. But the fact that you would even entertain that thought in order to provide for your kids makes you an incredible mom. I really hope things improve for you and you don’t need his help.

I DM’d you for your portfolio link and will try to help.

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No. It sounds like it would be a tumultuous experience. Your kids need you in a good place mentally and financially. I’d pass on whatever he’s offering. If he wants to really help he should simply give you the money no questions asked.

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I agree. And it should just be done once.

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