Would you settle for someone that you aren't in love with or be single for the rest of your life? Considering settling b/c watching others get what I want the most scares me, and so does being forgotten as I get older.

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Don’t settle, find the one you’re crazy about and gets your heart racing. It will even out after a few years. If you start with “settle” you’ll end up hating them in 5 years.

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Wise words

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Don’t settle on the few things that matter to you most. It is very unlikely you’ll find all that you want in someone and have them feel the same way about you - the trick is to find what you cannot compromise on. Even if you find someone that fits the bill, the more you know them, the more you’ll find things that bother you. Also think about what you bring to the table I.e what makes you attractive to your potential partner. This might not be what you want to hear so maybe this isn’t for you. This worked for me and a few people that I know. Settling isn’t the one to focus, IMO. Focus on what few things will make you happy

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Don’t do it if you are not in love. What makes you think you will not be able to find the one? Are your expectations unrealistic?

Single for sure. Being with someone you aren’t into is a liability

You should do what you want, not what others want or would do. The biggest roadblock in people's personal lives is their desire to mirror it based on that of total strangers. I have a time limit for how long I will wait to find the right one. If I cant find the right one, I will find the next best thing where you come to a compromise. Life is not meant to be spent alone. You may chose it be that way, however.

We all end up “settling” after a few years irrespective of how we started (in love/settling). That’s a hard fact

Couldn’t have put it better. You’ll never find everything you want in your SO. But, you should have the comfort level with someone and accept the person with what you may view as a flaw. If you can overlook that then in my opinion you are not settling.

How old are you right now?

I’m in the same boat.

I’m in the same boat and I really don’t know what to do. How do you define settling vs being comfortable vs being in love?

Same boat as a female.

I am in my 30s and now my mental health is suffering

I am in my 30s too so I understand the pressure. But I also think I’d rather be with someone who I actually like being with and have compatibility with than with someone I don’t respect. In my mind, I’d rather be happy by myself than compromise with someone I don’t feel a 100% about. Still unmarried here also btw.

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